We just left this year, but we handled how badly we treated folks, about 5 or 6 years ago.
Just flat out apologized to our fellowship for ANYTHING we did that made them feel bad or upset or just worthless. We only had a few "specific" apologies, since the treatment in general was bad we couldn't remember the little day to day anal nuonses. But apologized for all none-the-less.
We yelled at everyone, thought we were better than everyone, (believer/non-believer), never looked at our own weaknesses, only others....................so sad.
We quickly changed of course after the apologies, and then some....................that is why we aren't there now. It took 5 more years to figure it out.
The way I see it and "saw" it even up until last year, is that the yelling has stopped,yes, but the heart of the ministry has not changed. People yes, have changed, they have great hearts.....
but the "machine" of the ministry is a whole different animal. The "machine" has not changed. It is only shut off and stored in the hall closet for now. They haven't tried to fix the parts that are broken, or changed the ones that don't work the best, or add some new ones.......................................................................they will just grease it and fire it up when the time comes.
UNDER RUG SWEPT (think that was an album title) :blink: lol
anyway, history will always repeat itself if it is not addressed and dealt with HONESTLY.
To my satisfaction, this has NOT been done.
So yea, I was an @$$hole, try not be now, learned my lesson big and will always endevour to love my neighbor as myself.
Yes, I will have to count myself in with this group. I spent several years trying very hard to "be my best" and show others how to "be their best"... which we all know means beating myself up over every little thing, and being so miserable that I beat everybody else up, too. Everything had to be SO perfect. 24/7
There were times I would feel so bad or guilty for what I had just done or said, but I never told anyone because I thought I was the one who wasn't thinking right. I wasn't tight enough with God; wasn't tough enough on the Word. After all, I was carrying out my leadership's instructions!!
Once I left twi, the FIRST thing I did was look up everyone I could think of and apologize. Most of these wonderful people had left years before. I even wrote letters to a couple of folks who were still fellowshipping. With only one exception, my apologies were gladly accepted. The one exception were folks who were still stuck in the "blame everyone but myself mode" (which was the problem they had all along).
It's just shocking to look back and realize how far I was willing to go, down a path I hated, because I trusted the ones telling me to take that path more than I trusted my own gut instincts.
I've apologized to some but not others. But I left in '94 before the real s*** hit the fan. Even before that though if I hurt somebody and couldn't contact them I'd just ask God to forgive me and ask Him to bless that person and heal them. Not much else to do. I think Tonto's a she.
I feel fortunate that I left in 1987 before the legalism got out of hand...
...I always had a hard time with "confrontation"...some folks reveled in it, but it just wasn't my personality...don't get me wrong, I was an a**hole in my own right but the hardassed screaming and yelling at people was not my cup of tea...
...of course, my lack of "aggressiveness" was one of the reasons that I never fit in with my corps brethren...and one of the reasons that they "wrote me off" as being too nice a guy and not fitting in with the twi youth for Hitler movement...I was never considered for anything more than an area coordinator...there were just too many people who were mean spirited that were given the top jobs.
I'm proud of the fact that every person that I talked into the class and the "work of the ministry"...is now OUT!
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oh DJS
I can so relate.
We just left this year, but we handled how badly we treated folks, about 5 or 6 years ago.
Just flat out apologized to our fellowship for ANYTHING we did that made them feel bad or upset or just worthless. We only had a few "specific" apologies, since the treatment in general was bad we couldn't remember the little day to day anal nuonses. But apologized for all none-the-less.
We yelled at everyone, thought we were better than everyone, (believer/non-believer), never looked at our own weaknesses, only others....................so sad.
We quickly changed of course after the apologies, and then some....................that is why we aren't there now. It took 5 more years to figure it out.
The way I see it and "saw" it even up until last year, is that the yelling has stopped,yes, but the heart of the ministry has not changed. People yes, have changed, they have great hearts.....
but the "machine" of the ministry is a whole different animal. The "machine" has not changed. It is only shut off and stored in the hall closet for now. They haven't tried to fix the parts that are broken, or changed the ones that don't work the best, or add some new ones.......................................................................they will just grease it and fire it up when the time comes.
UNDER RUG SWEPT (think that was an album title) :blink: lol
anyway, history will always repeat itself if it is not addressed and dealt with HONESTLY.
To my satisfaction, this has NOT been done.
So yea, I was an @$$hole, try not be now, learned my lesson big and will always endevour to love my neighbor as myself.
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yes I was a jerk,apologized,moved on,vowing never to be like that again.
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Yes, I will have to count myself in with this group. I spent several years trying very hard to "be my best" and show others how to "be their best"... which we all know means beating myself up over every little thing, and being so miserable that I beat everybody else up, too. Everything had to be SO perfect. 24/7
There were times I would feel so bad or guilty for what I had just done or said, but I never told anyone because I thought I was the one who wasn't thinking right. I wasn't tight enough with God; wasn't tough enough on the Word. After all, I was carrying out my leadership's instructions!!
Once I left twi, the FIRST thing I did was look up everyone I could think of and apologize. Most of these wonderful people had left years before. I even wrote letters to a couple of folks who were still fellowshipping. With only one exception, my apologies were gladly accepted. The one exception were folks who were still stuck in the "blame everyone but myself mode" (which was the problem they had all along).
It's just shocking to look back and realize how far I was willing to go, down a path I hated, because I trusted the ones telling me to take that path more than I trusted my own gut instincts.
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I've apologized to some but not others. But I left in '94 before the real s*** hit the fan. Even before that though if I hurt somebody and couldn't contact them I'd just ask God to forgive me and ask Him to bless that person and heal them. Not much else to do. I think Tonto's a she.
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I feel fortunate that I left in 1987 before the legalism got out of hand...
...I always had a hard time with "confrontation"...some folks reveled in it, but it just wasn't my personality...don't get me wrong, I was an a**hole in my own right but the hardassed screaming and yelling at people was not my cup of tea...
...of course, my lack of "aggressiveness" was one of the reasons that I never fit in with my corps brethren...and one of the reasons that they "wrote me off" as being too nice a guy and not fitting in with the twi youth for Hitler movement...I was never considered for anything more than an area coordinator...there were just too many people who were mean spirited that were given the top jobs.
I'm proud of the fact that every person that I talked into the class and the "work of the ministry"...is now OUT!
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