Many victims become victimizers....you are just noticing many who happen to be men...
Coincidently, woman do as well, as mothers immediately comes to mind. It is more insidious because its harder to put your finger on....usually in the home away from prying eyes...where shame is used to give the illusion of control...
Well, you know what they say...If it's not one thing, it's your mother!
Part of the problem is that more abuse is reported today...there are fewer taboos about talking about it.
Part of the great number of victim is that one perp abuses so many people...how many is lcm responible for hisself?
Somek things that used to be considered normal are now called abusive. For example - my father spanked me hard...and once or twice used his belt. Fifty years ago he was "strict" but today he'd be called abusive.
Everybody abuses others; it's human nature. Some do it as bullies, to have an advantage over others, while some know that it's best avoided and only do it under pressure. Who among us hasn't snapped at someone (like our kids perhaps) out of impatience. I don't think guys have the patent on abuse.
My mother (born 1910) once told me that her mother locked my mother's sister in a closet for 2 days as punishment. I also heard that my dad's dad had to have the police called on him by his wife a time or 2 for the way he spanked my dad and his sister.
Think about it. The most abuse you ever got was from those you trusted (family, TWI, school friends, etc.).
When women get angry it is called depression.. it is ok for a woman to be depressed to be moody to have crying spells. to share their feelings.
Men also feel angry and become depressed but so many cant cry to their buddies and say the feelings they feel . being manly in america means bravado being able to handle all the pain and abuse life dishes out BUT never show how much it hurts.
Boys do not want to be sissy and cry , men handle stress it is their job and they should never need help. Emotions are for girls are just some of the false ideals society has stricken on men.
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Many victims become victimizers....you are just noticing many who happen to be men...
Coincidently, woman do as well, as mothers immediately comes to mind. It is more insidious because its harder to put your finger on....usually in the home away from prying eyes...where shame is used to give the illusion of control...
Well, you know what they say...If it's not one thing, it's your mother!
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Karmicdebt,
Good to see you back!!
Check you PT please.
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There's nothing wrong with you guys!
Part of the problem is that more abuse is reported today...there are fewer taboos about talking about it.
Part of the great number of victim is that one perp abuses so many people...how many is lcm responible for hisself?
Somek things that used to be considered normal are now called abusive. For example - my father spanked me hard...and once or twice used his belt. Fifty years ago he was "strict" but today he'd be called abusive.
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Everybody abuses others; it's human nature. Some do it as bullies, to have an advantage over others, while some know that it's best avoided and only do it under pressure. Who among us hasn't snapped at someone (like our kids perhaps) out of impatience. I don't think guys have the patent on abuse.
My mother (born 1910) once told me that her mother locked my mother's sister in a closet for 2 days as punishment. I also heard that my dad's dad had to have the police called on him by his wife a time or 2 for the way he spanked my dad and his sister.
Think about it. The most abuse you ever got was from those you trusted (family, TWI, school friends, etc.).
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When women get angry it is called depression.. it is ok for a woman to be depressed to be moody to have crying spells. to share their feelings.
Men also feel angry and become depressed but so many cant cry to their buddies and say the feelings they feel . being manly in america means bravado being able to handle all the pain and abuse life dishes out BUT never show how much it hurts.
Boys do not want to be sissy and cry , men handle stress it is their job and they should never need help. Emotions are for girls are just some of the false ideals society has stricken on men.
hence why rage happens why abuse happens. why men cant cope.
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