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This is a forume to tell of your journey since TWI.I was amazed to here Wackyfunster journey and continued evolution to be her athentic self.

Although being her true self I dont think ever was a problem.

I like the "Lord of the Rings " series. Remember Bilbo Baggins writing a book? " There and back again, a hobbits tale" by Bilbo Baggins. Well I would love to hear your tale. Good or bad makes no difference. It's your story, so share what is comfortable.

Entered the U.S Army in 88

Left Twi in 89. (In since 76)

Stayed on active duty till 94.I loved being a combat medic and ER tech. Was stationed in Fairbank AK. Got out because the militay changed to a "peace keeping force."

Drank my self drunk for 6mos.

worked OB/GYN ,I hated it .

Worked as a behavior specialist for kids that could not be in public school. I loved that. Went to Colorado with a friend to be a female wrangler and outfitter. 2nd day of school broke both my arms in a horse accident. Was layed up for 6mos. doing phisical therapy.

Got a job working at a Eating Disorder residential. Had a love /hate relationship with that. I was too co-dependent and those girls loved the chaos. That was the time my drinking got to be to much . Also at that time my mother was diognosed with terminal lung cancer. She only was suppose to live for 4 mos. She lasted 2 1/2 yrs. My Dad had dementia and was slipping to. They both died 6 wks apart. Same day ,same hour. So my plate was pretty full amotionally.

resigned from the anorexic facility buried both my parents and went to work with amotionally abused kids. I love that but have been beat up so much that I now work nights.

What I have learned about myself is I'm an alcoholic in recovery. I have learned to set boundries and limits. Twi taught me the opposite. I see a therapist for couceling. And my journey with God is realitivly new and different.. That part of my life has been buried and now Im ready to handle my Way stuff. Celtic spirituality resinates with me and different types of mystisim. So I am a work in progress. I just happened to wonder on to gsc and have not left since the first day of reading begun.

That is more or less my life. I have had failed relationships but that is another story.

Now its your turn. I look forward to reading your journey.

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Dearest posters, Judging by the lack of responce I sence that maybe I'v been a little intrusive. For this I aplogize. I guess what I'm asking is...Since we are not greaspots and are still here,I'd like to hear some sucsess stories of "Life without The Way"in any catagory you wish to share.

I am so Thankful to my higher power that I am still alive and have tremendous possibilities. available.

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Imbus,

All of us have had many events (good, bad and ugly)that have happened in our lives that helped shape us into what we are today.

Some people here have overcome a great deal of adversity. Some have not had the challanges that needed to be overcome.

My story is actually fairly boreing, so I will spare you...

Most of the people here are "good people" who will help with encouragement that we all need from time to time.

Most of us have figured out the we "don't have all the answers", and there is nothing wrong with that. Most of us also realize that sometimes people need help from trained professionals with some problems, and needing help is not a "charactor flaw".

Here at GS, friendships have been made. Having friends is always a good thing icon_smile.gif:)-->

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Imbus,

Thanks so much for sharing your story with us.

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Everyone here adds some flavor to the soup !

I wanted to respond to you without sharing my story, But I will say that since ending

my involvement with the way. I hold the ownership of my time left on earth like a closely guarded treasure. The bliss of a Sunday morning, where I can do as I please, a lazy day, reading the Sunday Times in bed, brunch in an open air cafe

with a friend.

Just being free to be me ! icon_biggrin.gif:D--> That is one little tidbit of my success.

Imbus, you would surely get many more response's if you move your story to the "my story" threads.

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imbus's story is in that section

thank you imbus for sharing. not intrusive in the least, just - oh i don't know - so honest. you are amazing. with all you've done to help people. i would find it much too stressful to work with emotionally abused kids, etc.

i'm so happy i'm not in the way anymore even though i miss some of the great friends i made.

i have zero desire to belong to a church or much of anything for that matter.

thanks again. and i'm sorry for your heartaches. so glad you're doing good now.

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Hi Imbus,

I'm not ready to post a book about my life on the My Story thread, but I will respond here.

I'm one of those who remained in the Way long after I would have liked to leave, because my spouse wanted to stay in.(There's kind of a discussion about that on another thread.) Those three years were the most difficult of my life.

I wasn't aware of all the LCM crap going on, or about the VPW stuff, either. I just knew how miserably we(especially me!)were treated by our local leadership. I could do nothing well enough to please that man, neither could my kids(my fault, of course,) but my husband was treated well. The HFC was sly, getting in his nastiest digs when DH wasn't around.

The Way was our life. DH was one of the wows who got me in the Word, our marriage was highly encouraged by our then leadership, I knew he was good guy and would be a great husband, father, and twig coordinator--which he was. Then a lay off, hospital bills etc. Bad time--haven't had one that bad since. We were counseled to sell our house, cease being TC and move to the Big City--the limb. We did it.

Finances were actually worse--our rent was higher than our mortgage had been. I took a night job, so we didn't have to pay daycare. Of course, I didn't work on Fellowship nights!

I remember being constantly exhausted during that time. We all had lots of colds etc, and DH's health continued to deteriorate.

I made about $150 more per month than we gave in ABS. To save money, I still cooked from scratch, no fast food for us on Fellowship nights. How unnecessary all those hard times were.

I did let DH know I wanted to leave, but he thought there was nowhere else to go. Because of the ugly hits-job lay offs, health stuff, huge medical bills, we needed to be in the protection of the Household, he thought.

Our area had NO innie/outie marriages. They all ended up getting divorced,with one spouse m&a'd, and the custody battles over the kids were ugly.

Leaving would do more harm to my children than staying, I thought. Didn't want to go through that. And DH was a good man--and there was always the possibility that I was wrong about the leadership, that I was really the problem. I thought DH would eventually figure it out.

So we stayed.

Eventually, the leadership that troubled me began to harass my husband also, lots of intrusions into our lives and finances, ugly confrontations, escalating issues. . . we had finally got to the top of the To Do list, I guess.

We left, refused to go to the final confrontation, got m&a'd.

Life is so much better now! Finances are healthy--I buy new! clothes, and new! books,own a house, I work part time and am not exhausted, Dh's health has improved so much, plus he takes the time to work out 5x a week.

Still have trouble making friends--have just a couple that I really consider friends. Neither of us can join a group, not even PTO. Always feel like people want a piece of us, I guess.

For me, I think the decision to stay in and wait it out was the best I could do in those circumstances. I know how hard that is, and my heart goes out to the innies who are living through that now. Marriage and family are a huge responsibility, not one to throw away, and you can't always have things your way, imho. No easy answer to those situations, you do the best you can.

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oh that was great bramble, thank you !!!

i'm so glad i'm not a part of the way anymore. i hated all the "time" i had to give and convince myself i was happy about it (endless meetings, setups, yuck). i didn't have a child while i was in. i'm REALLY thankful about that.

what's PTO ?

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PTO is parent teacher somethingruther...

Hey Bramble...I'm sorry for that whole nightmare!!!! thank you for sharing it in here icon_smile.gif:)-->

You are not alone in GS...there are others who were in similar situations as you...

I, too, have much trouble joining groups. After twi I sat quietly with the Quakers at the local meetinghouse on Sunday morning...praying to myself. I sat there for 2 years...just praying...didn't know what else to do. One day, after 2 years mind you, the "greeter" at the door asked me if I would like to greet the following Sunday. I was blown away...and never went back.

Like you, I felt they wanted a piece of me...

I've been out for 17 years now and still have trouble with groups. I did join a women's group therapy twice, and was ok with that, but, that was therapeutic.

Even if you volunteer to do something, seems they always creep up on you even more.

So, I hears ya...

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Bramble,

Great success story!

I'm so happy for you and your family.

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It makes me sad to think of all the family's still involved in the way

who have the same scenario going on in their lives, even as we speak.

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Hopefully , someone will read your post here and be inspired to seize

control and take back their lives; as you and yours have done. icon_smile.gif:)--> icon_smile.gif:)--> icon_smile.gif:)-->

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simple story Went into the US Navy after high school met some way people walked out of twig once.

Took the class got out of service went back home

went wow was apprentice corps too much bs came

back home been here ever since

Was tc for a number of years ect ect

Then fog downhill from then

Glad to be out

People who are still in there is life out of the way God is still God

Oh the fair weather friends we had till you buck the system.

Pfft can not see em for dust

Friends I have now are not dependant on whether I like the bible or not

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dearesr bramble

I'm glad your out and that you have a better handle on life.Twi always stired up chaos.

As for finding friends it took me years to be able to hold a simple conversation. And you know Im pretrafied of groups too. I can tolerate an AA group but dont get me to commit to the 12 step program. No way. Anyway thanks for sharing. "It's good to be alive...without The Way"

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I'm glad I'm out, too! What a life.

You're right about TWI causing chaos. Life has been more peaceful in day to day living since we left. In fact, the first week after I left I felt like I could breathe again. No more in your face confrontations about anything!!

In fact, haven't been in an ugly confrontation situation since then.

And all that money we forked over for ABS, classes, tapes and magazines,goes on our family now. We have savings that is not already sent on classes or weekends. We were seriously broke most of our TWI years, once the kids arrived.

We still have the kids--and they are lots more expensive now! But it's not an issue.

That was a huge stress area, now gone.

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