Salamie -- your kittie is in the best possible place to heal - with you-- I have had kitties come home in horrible condition---all the skin off one leg and dragging it home becasue it was broken...and many other silly sad predicaments -- time will be a good thing. You are a great caregiver! Kitty wants to live and we will all be praying for her.
(((((((((((psalmie))))))))))) what a heart breaking dilemna. I understand, there is never an easy answere when trying to figure out when to put one down.
Your kitty has been well loved and cared for. You need have no shame for not being able to afford a surgery that the cat might not survive. It seems to me that the only question is how long to keep her with you.
The nuts that post that crap that you spoke of, do not usually have children or families to care for. YOU know what a good pet owner you are.
My suggestion is to make these last few days (if indeed they are) as comfortable as you can for her. Let her know how special that she is. Tell her that you intend to see her again some day.
It has been my experience that she will let you know when it is time to go.
Psalmie this is truly a heartbreaking situation, I have been right where you are and it is a hard decision. I think our pets expect us to do what we are able, no more no less. For many people especially those with service animals that generally live on disabilities it is a hopeless feeling. You will have to do what you feel is the best you can, all things considered. When my last dog was ill after a visit to the regional vet hospital they said they thought they could fix him, the cost $3,000.00. Because they thought they could restore him to a good life and another 3 to 5 years or so, I bit the bullet and paid it off over time. I have no regrets. Like many I have always felt that a pet in many ways is like a child, in that they depend on us to care for, protect, and feed them in return they give what they can, love. As I said it is a heart wrenching decision but in the end I had to ask myself was I living up to my end of the deal? I would recommend that you visit with your vet about quality of life left for your kitty that may help in your decision. One thing I took away from that day was that I never wanted to be in that situation again, and unless I made some changes I knew it would come around again. When I got my new friend I also took out pet insurance for him. It allows paying a small monthly cost so that I won’t face another choice like that again. It makes it easier to bear the cost in having a pet and caring for them. Enclosed is a article on some options you might look in to. I know you will do what you are able to do for your kitty, and that is all that they expect in the end.
We had a dog who ate gorilla glue and oil made it pass.
The strings are bad as the draw up like a ruffle.
But if you are at the end of options -- what about trying it and pray it passes. I do not know the oil they used, it may be just omega 3-6-9 IT caused runny poop but the giant glue wad came out.
Psalmie stop feeling guilty - that's what those goons on the other site are trying to do to you.
You know what you can do and what you can't do. Love her as long as you can (and that oil sounds like a good idea, even if you have to squirt some in with an eyedropper - even olive oil ).
We'll all be happy for you if she comes out if this, and we'll grieve with you if she doesn't. You made the right decision according to what's right for your family! (((Psalmie)))
We'll all be happy for you if she comes out if this, and we'll grieve with you if she doesn't. You made the right decision according to what's right for your family!
I pm'd her - yes an eye dropper. I think olive oil is not real great for cats,I know its not the best for dogs, but I fo know we sell Omegas (You can buy flax at the grocery - it is omega)
Dot's suggestion of the oil confirmed a thought that crossed my mind last night. I didn't follow through at the time because she was spitting up the water she was drinking. But when I read it an hour ago, it confirmed the thought, and all I can think is in the midst of asking God for a miracle, He may have given me an answer. It can't hurt--her time's ticking. (My hubby has shut down emotionally concerning her, and would have taken her in this morning to be put down--as far as he's concerned, God told us the kitty was dying, so let's get this over with. I've begged for a full 48 hours from the appointment yesterday, and that will be tomorrow about 11 am. He's not going to give me till 11 am, I am sure-- he'll be packing her up in her crate as soon as he gets up.)
I do believe God told us--as His way of preparing us, but I am asking Him for a miracle-- a second chance. He'll either grant it or won't.
As to the other site, I haven't posted yet. I know enough that my self-esteem does not ride on whether those folks agree with what I do with my animals or not, but rejection still hurts and I'm trying to avoid it as long as possible.
As for Ellie, I've given her her first dose of the oil, so far she hasn't spit it up. She actually hasn't spit up since the wee hours of this morning. But she's also lethargic. She sometimes responds when we call her name and sometimes doesn't. She'll let us pet her, but doesn't purr. I couldn't sleep last night for awhile, so I loved on her and petted and rubbed her ears and gor some purring from her for a good half hour, but then she moved away. (She's never given me a half hour of purring, she's never been that kind of affectionate kitty--hates being held, lets us pet for a few minutes, purrs and then moves on) This is a hard day-- tomorrow will be harder if she doesn't pass anything tonight.
We took her to the vet and put her down this morning. I did the oil in a dropper--first one she kept down. I waited about 45 min, gave her a second--she kept it down. Hour later I gave her a third--she threw all of it up about 45 min later. And while she was retching, it looked so painful. I didn't give her any more. (that was late last night. This morning it looked like it hurt her just to walk, so we took her to the vet about 10am. The vet said she felt a lump in the intestines, and she was full of fluids, so she thought the string had already cut through and the junk was poisoning her. It was the right time. :( I held her while the vet gave the medicine and cried like a baby.
The vets office gave us a little bag with a sympathy card and a pretty candle in a jar--to burn in memory of her--that was sweet. (There was a poem that was like the Rainbow Bridge story) We buried her in our back yard by my garden. MY younger son, Ben and I are going to make a flat memorial stone for her--one of those stepping stone kits from the craft store. It's good closure--my hubby thinks its crazy, but it's good closure. And that is the area of my yard that this year, I'm going to plant a wildflower garden, and it's nice and sunny.
God is still good and wonderful and merciful. He didn't give us a miracle of healing for Ellie, and His ways are higher than mine. So while I don't understand why, I still know He is good!
Sorry I didn't let ya know sooner, but I couldn't type at that time.
Oh Psalmie, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I have been there myself and its not easy but remember that you gave your love to this kitty that most people would not have given. You gave this special kitty the love that it needed during life.
Thanks for the prayers and comfort. I miss her a lot today. :(
I don't have a digital camera, but discovered I have some pictures of her on my computer because I got a cd of some of my rolls of film. This was taken when she was about 8 months old, she got darker as she got older, but she was always such a pretty little thing.
Sorry to hear about your loss of your cat, Psalmie. I know the feeling when my Donut passed on. Those furry lil' critters have a way of sneaking, meowing, and purring their way into our hearts and lives.
I'm so sorry, Psalmie. She's a beautiful kitty! Thank you for sharing her picture with us. I love the garden and stone memorial, too. Great closure, I agree. :)
(((((psalmie)))) I am sorry. The wildflower garden is a great idea.
My husband doesn`t get it either when I insist on burying my pets and planting a memorial garden or sunflower house.
Then again, it is usually a horse or large dog I am having to deal with. We have rock walls and gardens all over our yard in memory of our dear friends.
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Salamie -- your kittie is in the best possible place to heal - with you-- I have had kitties come home in horrible condition---all the skin off one leg and dragging it home becasue it was broken...and many other silly sad predicaments -- time will be a good thing. You are a great caregiver! Kitty wants to live and we will all be praying for her.
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(((((((((((psalmie))))))))))) what a heart breaking dilemna. I understand, there is never an easy answere when trying to figure out when to put one down.
Your kitty has been well loved and cared for. You need have no shame for not being able to afford a surgery that the cat might not survive. It seems to me that the only question is how long to keep her with you.
The nuts that post that crap that you spoke of, do not usually have children or families to care for. YOU know what a good pet owner you are.
My suggestion is to make these last few days (if indeed they are) as comfortable as you can for her. Let her know how special that she is. Tell her that you intend to see her again some day.
It has been my experience that she will let you know when it is time to go.
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Psalmie this is truly a heartbreaking situation, I have been right where you are and it is a hard decision. I think our pets expect us to do what we are able, no more no less. For many people especially those with service animals that generally live on disabilities it is a hopeless feeling. You will have to do what you feel is the best you can, all things considered. When my last dog was ill after a visit to the regional vet hospital they said they thought they could fix him, the cost $3,000.00. Because they thought they could restore him to a good life and another 3 to 5 years or so, I bit the bullet and paid it off over time. I have no regrets. Like many I have always felt that a pet in many ways is like a child, in that they depend on us to care for, protect, and feed them in return they give what they can, love. As I said it is a heart wrenching decision but in the end I had to ask myself was I living up to my end of the deal? I would recommend that you visit with your vet about quality of life left for your kitty that may help in your decision. One thing I took away from that day was that I never wanted to be in that situation again, and unless I made some changes I knew it would come around again. When I got my new friend I also took out pet insurance for him. It allows paying a small monthly cost so that I won’t face another choice like that again. It makes it easier to bear the cost in having a pet and caring for them. Enclosed is a article on some options you might look in to. I know you will do what you are able to do for your kitty, and that is all that they expect in the end.
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Psalmie,
I understand how important our four legged members of our family are.
You and your kitty are in my prayers.
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What did the Vet say about oil? or cat lax?
We had a dog who ate gorilla glue and oil made it pass.
The strings are bad as the draw up like a ruffle.
But if you are at the end of options -- what about trying it and pray it passes. I do not know the oil they used, it may be just omega 3-6-9 IT caused runny poop but the giant glue wad came out.
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Psalmie stop feeling guilty - that's what those goons on the other site are trying to do to you.
You know what you can do and what you can't do. Love her as long as you can (and that oil sounds like a good idea, even if you have to squirt some in with an eyedropper - even olive oil ).
We'll all be happy for you if she comes out if this, and we'll grieve with you if she doesn't. You made the right decision according to what's right for your family! (((Psalmie)))
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(((((Psalmie)))))
I couldn't say it any better than Krys did.
Please let us know how you and Kitty are doing.
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I pm'd her - yes an eye dropper. I think olive oil is not real great for cats,I know its not the best for dogs, but I fo know we sell Omegas (You can buy flax at the grocery - it is omega)
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Krys is right olive oil is okay. Give a full fropper - we do not want her to vomit. Wait a bit and again, then another maybe hour and again
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Dot's suggestion of the oil confirmed a thought that crossed my mind last night. I didn't follow through at the time because she was spitting up the water she was drinking. But when I read it an hour ago, it confirmed the thought, and all I can think is in the midst of asking God for a miracle, He may have given me an answer. It can't hurt--her time's ticking. (My hubby has shut down emotionally concerning her, and would have taken her in this morning to be put down--as far as he's concerned, God told us the kitty was dying, so let's get this over with. I've begged for a full 48 hours from the appointment yesterday, and that will be tomorrow about 11 am. He's not going to give me till 11 am, I am sure-- he'll be packing her up in her crate as soon as he gets up.)
I do believe God told us--as His way of preparing us, but I am asking Him for a miracle-- a second chance. He'll either grant it or won't.
As to the other site, I haven't posted yet. I know enough that my self-esteem does not ride on whether those folks agree with what I do with my animals or not, but rejection still hurts and I'm trying to avoid it as long as possible.
As for Ellie, I've given her her first dose of the oil, so far she hasn't spit it up. She actually hasn't spit up since the wee hours of this morning. But she's also lethargic. She sometimes responds when we call her name and sometimes doesn't. She'll let us pet her, but doesn't purr. I couldn't sleep last night for awhile, so I loved on her and petted and rubbed her ears and gor some purring from her for a good half hour, but then she moved away. (She's never given me a half hour of purring, she's never been that kind of affectionate kitty--hates being held, lets us pet for a few minutes, purrs and then moves on) This is a hard day-- tomorrow will be harder if she doesn't pass anything tonight.
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Praying fervently for that oil to work really, really quick, Psalmie and for good news from you soon.
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She's gone. :(
We took her to the vet and put her down this morning. I did the oil in a dropper--first one she kept down. I waited about 45 min, gave her a second--she kept it down. Hour later I gave her a third--she threw all of it up about 45 min later. And while she was retching, it looked so painful. I didn't give her any more. (that was late last night. This morning it looked like it hurt her just to walk, so we took her to the vet about 10am. The vet said she felt a lump in the intestines, and she was full of fluids, so she thought the string had already cut through and the junk was poisoning her. It was the right time. :( I held her while the vet gave the medicine and cried like a baby.
The vets office gave us a little bag with a sympathy card and a pretty candle in a jar--to burn in memory of her--that was sweet. (There was a poem that was like the Rainbow Bridge story) We buried her in our back yard by my garden. MY younger son, Ben and I are going to make a flat memorial stone for her--one of those stepping stone kits from the craft store. It's good closure--my hubby thinks its crazy, but it's good closure. And that is the area of my yard that this year, I'm going to plant a wildflower garden, and it's nice and sunny.
God is still good and wonderful and merciful. He didn't give us a miracle of healing for Ellie, and His ways are higher than mine. So while I don't understand why, I still know He is good!
Sorry I didn't let ya know sooner, but I couldn't type at that time.
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I'm sorry for your loss Psalm.
You did the absolute best you could do for your kitten, she was loved!
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Psalm,
Ellie must have been such a special cat. It sounds like she brought so much joy to everyone she came in contact with.
I love how you buried her at home, and all the things you're doing to remember her.
I'm so sorry she's gone, Psalm, but at the same time, thankful Ellie had a happy and loving life with you.
Peace and love to you, and your family.
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Oh Psalmie, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I have been there myself and its not easy but remember that you gave your love to this kitty that most people would not have given. You gave this special kitty the love that it needed during life.
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(((((Psalmie)))))
So sorry for your loss. You made the right decision. I'll be praying for you and your family.
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(((Psalm))) - grieving with you.
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Thanks for the prayers and comfort. I miss her a lot today. :(
I don't have a digital camera, but discovered I have some pictures of her on my computer because I got a cd of some of my rolls of film. This was taken when she was about 8 months old, she got darker as she got older, but she was always such a pretty little thing.
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Sorry to hear about your loss of your cat, Psalmie. I know the feeling when my Donut passed on. Those furry lil' critters have a way of sneaking, meowing, and purring their way into our hearts and lives.
You have my sincere thoughts and regards.
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(((((Psalmie)))))
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((((((((PSALMIE))))))))))
I am truly sorry for your loss. I know how painful of a time this is for you and your family.
You and your family are in my prayers.
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I'm so sorry, Psalmie. She's a beautiful kitty! Thank you for sharing her picture with us. I love the garden and stone memorial, too. Great closure, I agree. :)
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(((((psalmie)))) I am sorry. The wildflower garden is a great idea.
My husband doesn`t get it either when I insist on burying my pets and planting a memorial garden or sunflower house.
Then again, it is usually a horse or large dog I am having to deal with. We have rock walls and gardens all over our yard in memory of our dear friends.
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