Not just dorm rooms. I know of one fine upstanding Christian organization that used to send men and women out on recruiting programs living together, and sex was never a probl- uh never mind.
Not just dorm rooms. I know of one fine upstanding Christian organization that used to send men and women out on recruiting programs living together, and sex was never a probl- uh never mind.
:unsure: Maybe it's a generational thing, but my favorite and best roomies were men. And we were just that "roomies". (I did date the best friend of one, though). I'd choose a male roommate over a female roommate any day.
Does remind me of a joke though:
Never Lie to your Mother:
John invited his mother over for dinner. During the course of the meal, his mother couldn't help but noticing how beautiful John's room-mate was. She had long been suspicious of a relationship between John and his room-mate, and this had only made her more curious.
Over the course of the evening, while watching the two interact, she started to wonder if there was more between John and his room-mate than met the eye. Reading his mom's thoughts, John volunteered, "I know what you must be thinking, but I assure you Julie and I are just room-mates."
About a week later, Julie came to John saying, "Ever since your mother came to dinner, I've been unable to find the silver gravy ladle. You don't suppose she took it, do you?"
John said, "Well, I doubt it, but I'll write her a letter just to be sure."
So he sat down and wrote: "Dear Mother, I'm not saying that you 'did' take the gravy ladle from my house, I'm not saying that you 'did not' take the gravy ladle but the fact remains that one has been missing ever since you were here for dinner."
Several days later, John received a letter from his mother which read:
"Dear Son, I'm not saying that you 'do' sleep with Julie, and I'm not saying that you 'do not' sleep with Julie. But the fact remains that if she was sleeping in her own bed, she would have found the gravy ladle by now. Love, Mom."
Having female roommates wasn't as fun as I thought it would be at first. Even if you are attracted to a girl, living with her in those conditions often makes her either like a bad wife or a sister.
Having female roommates wasn't as fun as I thought it would be at first. Even if you are attracted to a girl, living with her in those conditions often makes her either like a bad wife or a sister.
And in that regard, it CAN provide some experience at getting along in such a situation that might be helpful to a person when it comes time to choose a mate (hopefully for life). Not only do you learn about a person of the opposite gender -- who is NOT a relative -- but you learn probably not just a little bit about yourself.
For the guy (unless he is one of those gay or transexual fellows) it's nearly ALWAYS going to be true that he'll want to engage in some intimate interactive exercise, and SOMETIMES it could be that way for the gal... but it certainly can be beneficial (not that it would always be beneficial) for the guy to learn to live with a situation where he must delay such gratification (you know, for the future, when as a married man he wouldn't be getting it whenever HE wanted it anyway) and to get accustomed to a gal who is capable of maintaining appropriate boundaries...
Again, that's just one hypothetical scenario. It could just as easily complicate a lot of issues for both, especially if they don't have what it takes to maintain such boundaries personally.
Funny that this comes up in 2006/7. I was in a coed dorm in the early 70's. It was qute amazing how "cordial" things were. Yes there was some sexual activity; but for the most part it was just kids who got along well, did homework togehter, smoked a few things togther and hung out. It was not the scene most parents would expect or fear
Universities don't have to do this. If students want that, they were always free to move off-campus.
Yes, it often leads to sexual encounters, pregnancies, and abortions. Really doubt the information fed to us on that. I shared a house (different room) with a single female. While we didn't have anything sexual going on, the real reason was...I avoided her.
She was a REAL pain in the a**. How would you like to share a bathroom with the medicine cabinet filled with tampons, hygiene products, stockings handing on the shower, the television used for romantic movies instead of football, and going downstairs seeing her crying during soap operas and she gets mad at me and says, oh you men! (sob), get back upstairs!
The worst thing was when I had two tickets to an Ohio State-Michigan game and the guy going with me was in a traffic accident, so couldn't go, holed up in the hospital watching it on TV. I offered her the ticket, we went together, and she talked through the entire game asking me to describe plays, who the names were matched to the numbers on their jerseys, and asked me a few times if I thought a few guys she knew had a cute butt.
When the lease was up, I was gone, joining a fraternity.
I too am amazed by our kids living habits...I'm a non traditional student at UWG you should be here in the trenches to see what the other kids are doing, or not. They are not any more out of control than we were at that age and alot more informed but also dumb. as dumb as we were and perhaps in some regards smarter.
A pal of mine who works in student IT sez his biggest customer is the female students who have downloaded porno. Secomd to that is the high std rate on campus which, while high isn't unusual.
I talked with my two children who are currently both in college, and they both said they knew plenty of people who room with the opposite sex, and they're just housemates, no more, no less. They pick people to live with who can pay the bills and share the same values, and they don't see what's so wrong with it being the same or opposite sex.
My children room with same sex people, though. I'm sure I'd have something to say if they didn't.
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Not just dorm rooms. I know of one fine upstanding Christian organization that used to send men and women out on recruiting programs living together, and sex was never a probl- uh never mind.
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yeah hiway.. with the best intentions... nature takes it's course...
pirate, don't let the boy know about that college!!
..if I was him, that's where I'd be going... when I was that young I still thought it was fun to live with a woman!!!
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SHAME ON YOU - - Strange Tom! and BAH HUMBUG too just for good measure!
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Right my thought exactly.........
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:unsure: Maybe it's a generational thing, but my favorite and best roomies were men. And we were just that "roomies". (I did date the best friend of one, though). I'd choose a male roommate over a female roommate any day.
Does remind me of a joke though:
Never Lie to your Mother:
John invited his mother over for dinner. During the course of the meal, his mother couldn't help but noticing how beautiful John's room-mate was. She had long been suspicious of a relationship between John and his room-mate, and this had only made her more curious.
Over the course of the evening, while watching the two interact, she started to wonder if there was more between John and his room-mate than met the eye. Reading his mom's thoughts, John volunteered, "I know what you must be thinking, but I assure you Julie and I are just room-mates."
About a week later, Julie came to John saying, "Ever since your mother came to dinner, I've been unable to find the silver gravy ladle. You don't suppose she took it, do you?"
John said, "Well, I doubt it, but I'll write her a letter just to be sure."
So he sat down and wrote: "Dear Mother, I'm not saying that you 'did' take the gravy ladle from my house, I'm not saying that you 'did not' take the gravy ladle but the fact remains that one has been missing ever since you were here for dinner."
Several days later, John received a letter from his mother which read:
"Dear Son, I'm not saying that you 'do' sleep with Julie, and I'm not saying that you 'do not' sleep with Julie. But the fact remains that if she was sleeping in her own bed, she would have found the gravy ladle by now. Love, Mom."
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That was great, I did prefer men to woman also.
Although I did have an outstanding roomate in Ca. She was a riot. Toni Z.
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Tom Strange
awwwe Krys... why thank you! hugs and kisses
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ChasUFarley
Well...
If they have rooms for guys and gals to share
then I certainly hope they have rooms for the babies that will come next!
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Having female roommates wasn't as fun as I thought it would be at first. Even if you are attracted to a girl, living with her in those conditions often makes her either like a bad wife or a sister.
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And in that regard, it CAN provide some experience at getting along in such a situation that might be helpful to a person when it comes time to choose a mate (hopefully for life). Not only do you learn about a person of the opposite gender -- who is NOT a relative -- but you learn probably not just a little bit about yourself.
For the guy (unless he is one of those gay or transexual fellows) it's nearly ALWAYS going to be true that he'll want to engage in some intimate interactive exercise, and SOMETIMES it could be that way for the gal... but it certainly can be beneficial (not that it would always be beneficial) for the guy to learn to live with a situation where he must delay such gratification (you know, for the future, when as a married man he wouldn't be getting it whenever HE wanted it anyway) and to get accustomed to a gal who is capable of maintaining appropriate boundaries...
Again, that's just one hypothetical scenario. It could just as easily complicate a lot of issues for both, especially if they don't have what it takes to maintain such boundaries personally.
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Funny that this comes up in 2006/7. I was in a coed dorm in the early 70's. It was qute amazing how "cordial" things were. Yes there was some sexual activity; but for the most part it was just kids who got along well, did homework togehter, smoked a few things togther and hung out. It was not the scene most parents would expect or fear
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Universities don't have to do this. If students want that, they were always free to move off-campus.
Yes, it often leads to sexual encounters, pregnancies, and abortions. Really doubt the information fed to us on that. I shared a house (different room) with a single female. While we didn't have anything sexual going on, the real reason was...I avoided her.
She was a REAL pain in the a**. How would you like to share a bathroom with the medicine cabinet filled with tampons, hygiene products, stockings handing on the shower, the television used for romantic movies instead of football, and going downstairs seeing her crying during soap operas and she gets mad at me and says, oh you men! (sob), get back upstairs!
The worst thing was when I had two tickets to an Ohio State-Michigan game and the guy going with me was in a traffic accident, so couldn't go, holed up in the hospital watching it on TV. I offered her the ticket, we went together, and she talked through the entire game asking me to describe plays, who the names were matched to the numbers on their jerseys, and asked me a few times if I thought a few guys she knew had a cute butt.
When the lease was up, I was gone, joining a fraternity.
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I too am amazed by our kids living habits...I'm a non traditional student at UWG you should be here in the trenches to see what the other kids are doing, or not. They are not any more out of control than we were at that age and alot more informed but also dumb. as dumb as we were and perhaps in some regards smarter.
A pal of mine who works in student IT sez his biggest customer is the female students who have downloaded porno. Secomd to that is the high std rate on campus which, while high isn't unusual.
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YIdon'tgotochurch
I'm 50 years old.
That's all I have to say about that.
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Belle
Dang, Eagle!
I reckon I had some awesomely rare roommates to have put up with me for years.
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I see our kids seperating proximity closeness and sexuality.
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I talked with my two children who are currently both in college, and they both said they knew plenty of people who room with the opposite sex, and they're just housemates, no more, no less. They pick people to live with who can pay the bills and share the same values, and they don't see what's so wrong with it being the same or opposite sex.
My children room with same sex people, though. I'm sure I'd have something to say if they didn't.
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