sounds like a marriage and a love ordered in heaven <_< , as poetic as Romeo and Juliet
and everything so carefully thought out too..sounds like pure wedded bliss awaits :blink:
How long are you giving them?--is there a pool?
Should be...
Seriously--- I know they are your friends and Im sure they are very nice people-but the way you described it it doesnt sound like its destined to last too long..way too much chaos and too many issues.
Good luck I hope it works for them,
but goin on your description I'll put my 5 bucks on two years.
and to answer your question--thankfully, no, Ive never been to a wedding like that, Ive been spared
Oh my, Chas! Thank you for reminding me of exactly why it is Sushi and I opted to forgo the big wedding. All the planning and hassel sucks the joy and purpose right out of the event.
We opted for small and simple, My sister, her boyfriend, our kids and a JP. Afterwards we went out and had a wonderful lunch at a nice restaraunt. It was absolutely perfect.
I wish the couple you described all the luck in the world. If the brides temperment for the wedding is a true picture of her personality, the groom is going to need all the luck he can get!
Maybe this was just a fluke! Let's hope so anyway. If they didn't put any more thought into the marriage than they did the ceremony, though, it sounds like misery is around the corner.
A wedding I saw might not be the wedding from hell, but it was sure a $pricey$ one. It was held at the Atlanta Botanical Gardens, and everybody was showing up in stretch limos, dressed to the *max* (guys in expensive tuxedos, and ladies in long dresses).
But what made it stand out to me was for the music. Instead of an organ or piano, there was a full blown orchestra, complete with enough of the full compliment of musical instruments to do a classical production at a concert hall. :o
I hate to see the price tag on THAT one. (((shudders))) :ph34r:
I hope the couple are still together. I imagine that whoever sprung for this would *make* them stay together. ... Talk about your 'shotgun weddings'. :blink:
A wedding I saw might not be the wedding from hell, but it was sure a $pricey$ one. It was held at the Atlanta Botanical Gardens, and everybody was showing up in stretch limos, dressed to the *max* (guys in expensive tuxedos, and ladies in long dresses).
But what made it stand out to me was for the music. Instead of an organ or piano, there was a full blown orchestra, complete with enough of the full compliment of musical instruments to do a classical production at a concert hall. :o
I hate to see the price tag on THAT one. (((shudders))) :ph34r:
I hope the couple are still together. I imagine that whoever sprung for this would *make* them stay together. ... Talk about your 'shotgun weddings'. :blink:
I don't get that aspect of things either.
When I was in the South, it seemed like weddings were held more in competition of who could out-spend whom. They would take years to plan, cost into the hundred-of-thousands of dollars (I must have know the lower class rich southerners), and for what? A 50-50 chance at a successful marriage? I'd rather elope and have the money for a nice house, porsche, and whatever else... why spend it on all that fluff?
When Hubby first proposed to me, I wanted to just elope and throw a party afterwards. (That was also before the Marriage Penalty Tax had been lifted - I knew we'd get b-i-t-k-h-e-d slapped at tax time.) He didn't want that, as it was his first marriage - he wanted his mom to be there, etc. . I knew the headache that could come with planning an event, so we rented out the restaurant of a very nice resort local resort and invited 30 of our closest friends and relatives. The wedding was outside, on a golf course. The reception included a full banquet with a choice of three different entrees. We had the perfect August day for it - breezy, cool, and sunny. It was just a nice day - no snafus.
A very good friend had said, "Put your money into your photos and your food, because that's what people will remember," and she was right! Along with our outfits, rings, flowers, etc. - the whole thing came to less than $2K. We paid the whole bill that day. DONE.
Then, we put our money into getting the house and having babies - and we've been broke ever since! LOL!
I helped with so many weddings in TWI that by the time it came to mine, I was quite sick of them!
So often, today's brides seem like spoiled children with over-indulgent parents. Either that, or the parents seem to be trying to simply show off their ability to spend outrageously. I've also never quite been a fan of conformity for its own sake.
My aunt said to me, "This is YOUR day. You can have WHATEVER YOU WANT." Inwardly, I cringed. It sounded as though she was speaking to a three-year-old. That conversation really cemented the Justice-of-the-Peace thing for me.
I was extremely happy to go with Mr.niKa and his children, and both our parents, as well as three or four other family members, to the Justice of the Peace. We all pretty much eloped together.
It was a blessing.
More than ten years, and two more children later, I have never experienced even one moment of regret that we didn't have a big wedding. I do still enjoy the sense of relief that we chose a tiny, very private one.
Chas, I'd like to hear what the bride has to say for herself when she returns from the honeymoon...if there was a honeymoon. It sounds like a horrible day. You must be a very patient person.
"A close friend and co-worker asked me to shoot their wedding for them"
This is such a great idea! Rather than all the give and take, the eventual recriminations and broken dreams, and the inevitable divorce, you just put them all out of their misery right at the start! How much more convenient is that? (!)
"A close friend and co-worker asked me to shoot their wedding for them"
This is such a great idea! Rather than all the give and take, the eventual recriminations and broken dreams, and the inevitable divorce, you just put them all out of their misery right at the start! How much more convenient is that? (!)
ROTFLMAO!
The truth to it all is that I would have been putting them out of MY misery...
The happy couple is selling their house - he's still not working - and they're moving to FL or MI, whenever they decide. I learned that she never paid for the use of the church for the wedding service or the hall that she rented for the reception - wow... talk about NO SCRUPLES... unbelievable.... that's one friendship I don't miss!
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GeorgeStGeorge
Not even close.
Interestingly, though, I did the photography for several weddings. All the couples are divorced now. :(
George
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AHH ---the Belcher and the Screamer-
sounds like a marriage and a love ordered in heaven <_< , as poetic as Romeo and Juliet
and everything so carefully thought out too..sounds like pure wedded bliss awaits :blink:
How long are you giving them?--is there a pool?
Should be...
Seriously--- I know they are your friends and Im sure they are very nice people-but the way you described it it doesnt sound like its destined to last too long..way too much chaos and too many issues.
Good luck I hope it works for them,
but goin on your description I'll put my 5 bucks on two years.
and to answer your question--thankfully, no, Ive never been to a wedding like that, Ive been spared
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Oh my, Chas! Thank you for reminding me of exactly why it is Sushi and I opted to forgo the big wedding. All the planning and hassel sucks the joy and purpose right out of the event.
We opted for small and simple, My sister, her boyfriend, our kids and a JP. Afterwards we went out and had a wonderful lunch at a nice restaraunt. It was absolutely perfect.
I wish the couple you described all the luck in the world. If the brides temperment for the wedding is a true picture of her personality, the groom is going to need all the luck he can get!
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Maybe this was just a fluke! Let's hope so anyway. If they didn't put any more thought into the marriage than they did the ceremony, though, it sounds like misery is around the corner.
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Oh gawd, don't get me started...
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A wedding I saw might not be the wedding from hell, but it was sure a $pricey$ one. It was held at the Atlanta Botanical Gardens, and everybody was showing up in stretch limos, dressed to the *max* (guys in expensive tuxedos, and ladies in long dresses).
But what made it stand out to me was for the music. Instead of an organ or piano, there was a full blown orchestra, complete with enough of the full compliment of musical instruments to do a classical production at a concert hall. :o
I hate to see the price tag on THAT one. (((shudders))) :ph34r:
I hope the couple are still together. I imagine that whoever sprung for this would *make* them stay together. ... Talk about your 'shotgun weddings'. :blink:
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I don't get that aspect of things either.
When I was in the South, it seemed like weddings were held more in competition of who could out-spend whom. They would take years to plan, cost into the hundred-of-thousands of dollars (I must have know the lower class rich southerners), and for what? A 50-50 chance at a successful marriage? I'd rather elope and have the money for a nice house, porsche, and whatever else... why spend it on all that fluff?
When Hubby first proposed to me, I wanted to just elope and throw a party afterwards. (That was also before the Marriage Penalty Tax had been lifted - I knew we'd get b-i-t-k-h-e-d slapped at tax time.) He didn't want that, as it was his first marriage - he wanted his mom to be there, etc. . I knew the headache that could come with planning an event, so we rented out the restaurant of a very nice resort local resort and invited 30 of our closest friends and relatives. The wedding was outside, on a golf course. The reception included a full banquet with a choice of three different entrees. We had the perfect August day for it - breezy, cool, and sunny. It was just a nice day - no snafus.
A very good friend had said, "Put your money into your photos and your food, because that's what people will remember," and she was right! Along with our outfits, rings, flowers, etc. - the whole thing came to less than $2K. We paid the whole bill that day. DONE.
Then, we put our money into getting the house and having babies - and we've been broke ever since! LOL!
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I helped with so many weddings in TWI that by the time it came to mine, I was quite sick of them!
So often, today's brides seem like spoiled children with over-indulgent parents. Either that, or the parents seem to be trying to simply show off their ability to spend outrageously. I've also never quite been a fan of conformity for its own sake.
My aunt said to me, "This is YOUR day. You can have WHATEVER YOU WANT." Inwardly, I cringed. It sounded as though she was speaking to a three-year-old. That conversation really cemented the Justice-of-the-Peace thing for me.
I was extremely happy to go with Mr.niKa and his children, and both our parents, as well as three or four other family members, to the Justice of the Peace. We all pretty much eloped together.
It was a blessing.
More than ten years, and two more children later, I have never experienced even one moment of regret that we didn't have a big wedding. I do still enjoy the sense of relief that we chose a tiny, very private one.
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My next one will be at the JOP followed by a keg party!
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Chas, I'd like to hear what the bride has to say for herself when she returns from the honeymoon...if there was a honeymoon. It sounds like a horrible day. You must be a very patient person.
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ChasUFarley
Gawd...
It was a year ago yesterday when I posted this thread....
I think I'll give up going to weddings for Lent...
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I would have put money on "6 months". So, Chas, are the "happy"
couple still together?
Though I didn't have wedding experience like you described, I DID experience the MARRIAGE from hell!
But I suspect I'm not alone in that regard.
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"A close friend and co-worker asked me to shoot their wedding for them"
This is such a great idea! Rather than all the give and take, the eventual recriminations and broken dreams, and the inevitable divorce, you just put them all out of their misery right at the start! How much more convenient is that? (!)
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ROTFLMAO!
The truth to it all is that I would have been putting them out of MY misery...
The happy couple is selling their house - he's still not working - and they're moving to FL or MI, whenever they decide. I learned that she never paid for the use of the church for the wedding service or the hall that she rented for the reception - wow... talk about NO SCRUPLES... unbelievable.... that's one friendship I don't miss!
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