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Tom, I apologize: you were the first to mention I think it's only fair to give credit where credit is due. So let's make sure everyone knows Goey is not trying to steal credit for your idea for I certainly wouldn't try to take credit or lead anyone to believe that was my idea.

Oldiesman, No one, not one person, was rude or inappropriate to Wonder. Wonder asked a question, politely. It was answered, politely. "Carved up and cubed like diced ham?" No, Oldiesman, the question was neither carved nor cubed. It was answered.

So wait, Goey, are you saying that if I were to register: they couldn't sue me? That's pretty amazing. Maybe was could park there and start a bidding war for I think you may be onto something.

Oldiesman, Some of us do write about, and post about, other things. That's what Tom was trying to say.

Wonder, Welcome. How would you like your coffee? You are correct: many who left did so because of people. I left primarily because everyone I knew was leaving at the same time, and because my personal investigation (scant as it was) led me to believe that staying was not the godly thing to do. I praise God I was never hurt in the way so many others were. But another significant reason to leave is doctrinal: I do not buy TWI's take on tithing, on "the law of" believing, or on a slew of other, significant issues. I don't foresee changing their minds about those issues, so if I'm going to be honest, I'm not going to stay. I would like to say those doctrinal issues are the reason I left, but they're not. I came to those conclusions later. But they are the reason I would continue to stay away, even if TWI really did become "kinder and gentler." For all I know, TWI already is kinder and gentler. But I've moved on. And, for me, that's okay. I don't require TWI to be perfect. Lord knows I'm not. Neither is CES, CBC, Restoration Fellowship, or any other ministry. I just have no desire to re-join TWI only to be constantly reminded that, in their uninformed opinion, I'm robbing God because I don't fork over thousands of dollars to their coffers every year. God Bless You.

I don't think anyone is complaining about getting kicked out in 1989. Heck, I'm grateful it happened. Spared me the wrath to come, if you catch my meaning.

John, Thank you. I truly appreciate your post. A couple of things: One, regarding the VF class: take a look at my postings on the thread entitled "How much authority can TWI have over you." You'll find that I say pretty much the same thing. You said: "Each person is responsible to rise up." I agree. You said: "Bathsheba's culpability was moot when David made her his wife." Agreed. So why did we not see God say anything to her before that? Because He wasn't upset? No, we'll agree that He probably was upset, based on that particular sin making the Top Ten list. But her culpability wasn't the point of the account. The point of the account was David's sin, and how it affected not only David, but the entire kingdom of Israel. In that context, Bathsheba's role is not the point. The point of this thread is the abuse committed by those in authority. That abuse is largely responsible for what happened to TWI. The culpability of the abused is irrelevant to that point. It may be relevant to other points, but not that one. You said: "I think these women here are a lot stronger than you think." Now, yes. But they are not in TWI now. They have had time to reflect now. They resent what happened now. They regret it. And they kick themselves for allowing this to happen in their lives. They honestly don't need us to remind them of what they did. At the time they were in TWI, they were manipulated, deceived, and abused. It happened far more frequently than you or I would like to think. Do I underestimate the strength of these women? Perhaps. But in turn, you vastly underestimate the power wielded by the abusers, and the extent to which they abused their position as "men of God" in order to satisfy their lusts. If you take your mind off the culpability of the women, you can more clearly see just how dastardly the men were. It wasn't just sex. It wasn't just adultery. It was the abuse of power, the taking advantage of love, and the rule by fear. I apologize if I crossed any lines of decorum in this debate.

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Don't get me wrong: I'm sure Bathsheba was an adulteress. It's just that in the telling of the story, her culpability was not the point. God doesn't spend any time in II Samuel 12 discussing her culpability (I don't know if it's mentioned elsewhere, but if it is, I assure you it's because where it's mentioned, it's the point.) God was mad at David. God was upset with what David did. Bathsheba's culpability was not a factor. David was held accountable for what David did. Was He mad at Bathsheba? Sure He was. There was, after all, that matter of breaking one of the Big Ten. But it's not mentioned: because it's not relevant. Get it? The culpability of the person who is used by the "man of God" is irrelevant to the discussion, regardless of her level of consent. In other words: It does not matter one whit if the woman was drugged or raped or a prostitute, the point is that men of God ought not be doing such things.

Inspector Gadget 2 Click on the link. Read it. There's a reason I've posted it. Awful movie, by the way. All the intelligence of the cartoon with none of the charm.

Can someone help me out here? I'm looking for the place in the Bible where Bathsheba is chastised for her adultery...

Shaz, Exactly. I'm sorry I left that out. I hinted at it when I said, "respect of persons." We loved, and they took advantage of that love. We respected, and they took advantage of that respect. We trusted, and they took advantage of that trust. And in a way, a very real way, we let them. That's what kills us. That's what eats at us inside. We wish they had held guns to our heads, because at least other people would understand why we allowed these things to happen in our lives. But they didn't hold guns to our heads; they held Bibles to our hearts, and threatened to take that away from us if we didn't comply. And some people don't get the message that that threat could feel (not be, feel) just as real as a .44 aimed between the eyes. Some of us saw through that. Others did not. We surrendered: out of love (misunderstood by us), respect (misplaced toward them) and trust (misused by them). CHRISTIAN VIEW ALERT: Some of us sinned, which is bad. Some of us were led to sin, which is worse. We were led to sin in God's name, which is far worse. God may be clear in His contempt for sin, but He is more clear in His anger for those who lead others to sin, particularly in His name. But this thread is about the authority we allowed leaders to have over us, so I won't dwell on the leaders who abused that authority. I think there's another thread for that.

Sorry I missed it. Happy Birthday John. Look, I got something for ya...

Ya got fooled. Snookered. Tricked. You were lied to. Deceived. Manipulated. That's how they got you to surrender your authority, and your good judgment. (In some cases, you were drugged. Nothing I write here applies to you). You did it because you were deceived. But you did it. Now it's time to take it back. Separate and distinct from that is the sin of the one who deceived you; particularly if the deception was intentional. But that's not the point of this thread. How did good people get to the point in their lives where the word of a TWI leader was tantamount to a direct order from the Almighty Himself? How did good people who wanted to serve God fail to recognize sin for what it was? How did good people who wanted to be good stewards find themselves forking over more money than they could afford, in defiance of Biblical principles of sound stewardship and in the utter absence of Biblical commands governing what amount to give? We were deceived. We surrendered our power (our error) because we were deceived (their error). We surrendered our judgment (our sin) because they distorted God's Word (their sin). We surrendered our sound minds (our mistake) because they manipulated us in God's name (their treachery). Until one day, for whatever reason, we said "Stop." Maybe it was because TWI threw you out and you got tired of beating against the door begging them to let you back in, and instead you decided to just say "Stop." Maybe it was because you came to your senses and they gave you one ridiculous order too many so you decided to just say "Stop." Maybe it's because you threw off the blinders they used to shelter your mind from the process of critical thinking, and instead you thought for yourself and decided it was time to just say "Stop." And you started to take it back. Power over your finances: you took it back. Power over your judgment: you took it back. Power over your body: you took it back. Power over your marriage and family and relationships: you took it back. Deny them the power.

I voted for: "Much. Social and psychological pressures steal authority from the member." But I disagree with the word "steal." It wasn't stolen. We surrendered it. We surrendered to the pleasures they offered and the pressures they imposed, but ultimately it is we who surrendered. It's time to take it back. Deny them the power.

"TWI has no power over you except that which your actions allow." "The abuser has no power over the abused except that which the abused one's actions allow." Alas, this is indeed a true statement. Why did the abused allow the abuses? Fear. Intimidation. Threats. Lack of knowledge and/or understanding of God's Word. Lack of confidence in God. Too much confidence in men, particularly men who claim to speak for God. Respect of persons. TWI has no power over you except that which your actions allow. Repeat it to yourself. In or out, it is true. "If you leave, God will not protect you!" They're trying to instill fear in you. So they can have power over you. TWI is not God. Leaving TWI is not leaving God. Don't let their deception work. Don't let their attempt to instill fear in you work. Reject the fear. Reject their claim of power over you. TWI has no power over you except that which your actions allow. "You'll be a Greasespot by midnight." First of all, that's stupid: it doesn't take nearly that long to register at this site. Play your cards right and you'll be a Greasespot by dinnertime. And that's a good thing: because here we are free from their threats and intimidation. We may have our spats, and they may run deep, but we keep coming back because we can. We can dialogue. We can learn from our disagreements. No enforced like-mindedness. No overseer telling us what we can and cannot say, what we can and cannot think. No man has power over us. TWI has no power over you except that which your actions allow. I know, it's easier said than done. You have family in there. Leaving TWI may put you at risk of losing a husband, a wife, a child. There's no easy answer there. But God is still God. You got in because you wanted a better relationship with Him, right? Well, here's your chance: is THIS what you think He wants for you? Is THIS where you think HE wants you to be? Maybe. Maybe for the sake of your family, He needs YOU in that place at this time. But no matter where you are, whether it's corps or a branch or a home fellowship or anywhere else, you are an ambassador for CHRIST, not for TWI. Stand up: your strength is needed, and you have none. But God does. Stand up, and in His strength, it's time to fight back. Fight for your family, fight for your integrity, fight for your faith. You may lose some friends in the process. If so, they are not true friends, and you'll find others. You may lose some family: no one wants to do that. It's hard. Too easy to talk yourself out of it. Do what you can. You've got God on your side. When they try to control, deny them the power. When they try to manipulate, deny them the power. When they threaten with fear, deny them the power. When they threaten with abuse, deny them the power. When they threaten with litigation, deny them the power. When they threaten with shame, deny them the power. THEY ARE WRONG to control, to manipulate, to threaten, to litigate, to slander. THEY ARE WRONG to covet, to distort the scripture for their selfish ends. But they can only be effective if you allow it. Don't allow it. Deny them the power. Deny them the power. Deny them the power.

I recall the Spanish language fellowships in NY and NJ flourishing. Again, late 1980s. Sounds like someone was either sending or receiving mixed signals.

Oh,... Take it up with Jesus, why don't you. :)-->

Hey, you're the one who brought up the pair. But I'll delete if it offends you so. Maybe I'll replace it with "you're full of crap." You seem comfortable with that language, right? :)--> And I don't consider you an enemy, but I do pray for you. I pray for anyone who still doesn't get the difference between the abuser and the abused; who can't see the distinction between a misled parishioner and a willfull adulterer.

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Aww, I'm sure you're not lying about what you saw and heard. Just don't think it's the complete picture, is all. Either that wasn't the "policy" you thought it was, or it was the policy and someone defied it. I just remembered a second interracial couple, married by TWI.

Oldiesman, It's not that I don't see it... It's that IT'S NOT THE FRIGGIN POINT! The sin of the abuse of power cannot be committed by those who are not in power. Don't you ever get it? You deny that the power was "absolute," but it doesn't have to be "absolute" to be abused. It doesn't have to be absolute for God's people to be manipulated. You say I missed Johniam's point in John 8. You're wrong. The point that Jesus said "Go and sin no more" was not refuted by me. What I refuted was the following: Baseless speculation. All of it. Simply untrue, and unsupportable Biblically. That was my objection: that he was misinterpreting John 8 to make that adulteress analogous to the women of the Corps. In fact, the reasons for the adulteresses behavior are unknown and unexplored in scripture (except, of course, for what you guys just decide to make up to flesh out the story).

I'm aware of one interracial couple married by TWI in the 1980s.

Maybe it takes the absence of a pair to constantly harp on the culpability of the powerless when the thread is about the powerful.

Imbus, It saddens me that you were manipulated. I'm glad you recognize that for what it was. It saddens me that you have trouble trusting Christianity. As long as Christians are human, I don't know how you will find a Christian community that is free from sin. I hope you don't let the misconduct of a few Christians (or wolves) rob you of the Christ at the heart of our faith. This really isn't the place for ministering, but if you ever want to talk, you know where to find me. Raf