Al Poole

imablvr... Do You? Really? Like Aqualung??? You are so showing your age girl!!! [ Unless you're like my 13 yr old daughter who is a Carol King, early James Taylor, and early Billy Joel FREAK!!! LOL! (she thinks Brittny S is a sl--! and Christina A is worse! how lucky could I be?? ) ] I saw Tull last fall... some things are better left in the memory box!!! The music was great but the "pipes" were gone! Still like the old stuff though!!! I think Aqualung could be a good start for ex wayfers.

Hiya Dot... it all still blows my mind~!!! ...."all I wanted was 'more harmony in the home' "

Gosh... where's Rod Sterling ??????

Mail me... alpoole2002@hotmail.com

is a BIG deal... having read thru all the posts, and having some recent "single" experience myself, I just had to jump into the pool. but first... itchley.... corry seems to be looking for a "mate". If you're using "lover" synomimously (sp) okay but "lovers" in the vernacular are a dime a dozen and shouldn't be confused with a mate, your mate should be your lover but a mate incorporates SO much more! Sorry bout the digression but I just had to go there. Corry.... the best all around advise so far has ABSOLUTELY been.... chas. You don't say your age but with two teenage sons I'll wager... 30-40... how bout 36???? that's about when I found myself single again (37). I say chas cause I did EXACTLY what she said: "After having been married once I knew what I could and couldn't live with -- I knew what areas of life I could compromise on and which ones I couldn't." ALL OF LIFE WITH SOMEONE IS A SERIES OF COMPROMISES!!! So you have to be strong enough to give BUT SMART enough to know when you're giving up everything you are and stand your ground. I've been married to Betty for almost 4 years. 2nd for us both. I was single for 3 yrs in between. SHE TOLD ME POINT BLANK.... this is what I am, and I dated her long enough to see her "style/actions" agreed with her words. In your future relationships watch for how your companion deals with opinions, decisions, situations, that are adverse. BEFORE you get too much emotion invested. "When I met hubby, I had been dating a man who did not want to get married, already had a child from a previous marriage and didn't want anymore. He wanted the milk and not the cow, if you get my drift." GREAT POINT CHAS.... why do you want to get married????? companionship??? or stud service??? Looking for ONE rest-of-your-life-partner???? In most cases/with most men...Your mother was right "they won't buy the cow if the milk is free" I'm sure you get it, but to put it simply... if you're "giving it up" too early... even a good man will probably write you off... yep, it's a double standard but that's still the way it is. But that goes back too WHY you want to get married and if you haven't REALLY thought it through long and hard you're SOOOO not ready to even be thinking about marriage. "Hubby wasn't that. After I realized we were pretty compatable, I basically gave him my "business plan" -- I wanted the American Dream -- house, kids, and 2 cats in the yard..." CHAS... I'd love to meet you and your hubby sometime... you got it gonin on ... You knew what you wanted... Which means you'd thought it through. THEN you laid it out for him... which shows your honesty... AWESOME "He said he wanted his kids to have red hair (I'm a redhead and wanted to live in a house near the lake). BTW - we'd met in Jan '00 and were married in Aug. Our son was born in July '01. " CONGRATULATIONS CORRY HERE'S WHERE IT GETS TO THE NITTY GRITTY PAY REAL CLOSE ATTENTION TO WHAT CHAS SAYS RIGHT HERE.... "The moral of the story: Know what your 'must haves' are, have an idea of what your 'would like to haves' might be and what your 'no-way-in-hell!' is, too. This is someone you DON'T want to make another mistake with, so why settle for less?" PRINT THIS OUT... TAPE IT ON YOUR FRIDG, MIRROR, TV, CAR KEYS, IN FRONT OF THE TOILET... CHAS has in a very few short paragraphs encapsulated the wisdom of many many books, CHAS...the cliff notes editor.... "BTW -- about your 'Christian' friends -- they won't have to live with the man you choose to settle down with -- they should be happy if you're happy and if they aren't then they should keep their pieholes closed! =)" I might add.... to all the... "trust in God" advise... Yes trust God, trust your brains and your gut instincts TOOO. I've trusted God for many things... AND got myself off my *** and went and looked/worked/studyed for those things too (I think you get my drift). And one more thing... if you're looking at a divorcee' MAKE SURE HE'S HAD TIME TO WORK THROUGH HIS BAGGAGE AND SETTLED ON A LOAD HE CAN CARRY HIMSELF.... and.. you do likewise.. Don't be discouraged... good people/men are out there, don't wait for them to find you, and don't wear your heart on your sleeve. Be friends, just friends, ABSOLUTE friends, with a lot of men. You'll learn so much and you'll see more and more of what you like, don't like, and you'll discover TONS of new things. Relax, have fun with it!!! Happy hunting!