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I am sure some thin ones get it, but from my view a lot of too thin people are told they look great, or "I wish I were skinny." "Oh you should eat!" but in a more loving manner, almost like a compliment. "Honey, you will waste away, eat something." "Look at that cute little waist." All the while most women wished they looked like you. Nobody that I have ever met, looks at a fatty and says boy, I wish I looked like you -- except for an even fatter person. FAT people are at the mercy of a society where looks are everything. FAT = Lazy or they "just do not care" etc. IF you say "My friend has a great personality." Most side comments are, "then she must be fat."

Bless you Allan, may you never gain 20 pounds as you get old just because you are getting older. May you never be judged on your hairline or your waistline. And yeah, you may want to duck there ol' chap. Maybe not, all the FAT People like food too much to throw it at you. Anyone have a brick? Another story: Oh here is one, a short chubby woman was walking down and aisle at the pharmacy. Minding her own business. She was dressed well, and looked as if she just came from work. Perhaps a hard day as well -- you all work. Work is not always easy. Anyway, she was the only one in the aisle and the teen working announced over the speaker "Susquash now in aisle three. Susquash now walking in aisle three." Of course people went to LOOK in aisle three and there was this perfectly dressed woman in her PLUS size clothes just standing there like a deer in the headlights. (Susquash is Big Foot)

PS You can correct stinky feet, bad breath, poor choices in clothes but perfect strangers do not mention things like that as they know it is rude. So, why do people think it is okay to speak to a stranger about their weight? I heard people say to a stranger in a restroom, "My daughter had a weight problem until she went to Weight Watchers." IT is like with all the sins in the world, the worst is gaining weight in the good old USA. A thin slut would be better than a slightly chubby wonderful woman. Another one of my friends was married to a lawyer. She help him start the firm I eventually worked at. One day, he brings home a business associate with an insurance firm. This woman was a thin, very unattractive phone solicitor. And the man? He left his angel of a wife after 35 years for the skinny ugly, been with the football team woman. When his intelligent wife and their two sons (who became ministers -- good ones) were thrown away like garbage. The big sore spot in the marriage? She gained 20 pounds over the course of 35 years. How dare she? BTW, Janice the lawyer works at a place where a lot of the woman are younger and thinner than she. One day, there was a lunch for the whole group and she happened to get on the elevator with a judge and they entered the lunch area together. HE looked all around the room then at her. And he said, "Ya know in this whole room you are the fattest person here." I think he knew better. IT seems to be accepted to be mean to anyone who gains weight.

My friend Janice wrote a poem about being fat. She went from about a size 6 to maybe a 10 or 12 at the age of 50. Her husband then used to make fun of her all the time and eventually divorced her. She was SO upset and ya know what her mother did? She said it is your own fault as you became fat. Oh my God, 3 children, a house, two very top-notch people and FAT is going to do them in? HE is a General in the armed forces and she is a lawyer. They have two kids in med school and one in law school. Janice is "girl scout" pure, generous and kind. Amd this butt hole is upset that at the age of 50/55 she is in a 9-10 sometimes 11-12 pair of pants. So, how come its okay for his nose hair to be long enough for braids and because she is no longer 22 he finds that as fault?

So, one has a large nose – people do not tell them have I got a Doctor who can fix that. They have halitosis and people just creep around them, maybe a loving spouse or a child who does not know any better may address the issue But boy when you put on some weight somehow it is open season, for people to offer one diets, send diets in the mail, say, “You would be great looking if you dropped a few pounds. “Are YOU sure you want dessert? “Isn’t that YOUR second piece of chicken?” "Ya know, if you want to hold on to your man you may want to drop a few pounds." “Boy you have sure gained weight” “Oh that’s a shame what happened?” Can you imagine someone saying to a beak of a woman, “You should have that fixed.” Or to a bald guy, “Have you seen the commercials? There is a hair club for men.” "Why you got hair springing from you nose Harry, have you considered clippers?" "Ya know odor eaters would go nicely in your sneakers." Why is it open season on anyone who gains some weight? And as a shorty it doesn’t take much to make a difference. I think my weight is just fine, its my height that is screwed up.” Mmmmm any suggestions or diets to make me 5’7”? Really, why do people ALWAYS seem to comment on the person who gains some weight? Like it is the end of the world. I know men who cheated on their wives when they were “fat” with child. Is it just America?

Hey Hope! Happiest of days to you!

Stevia is a GREAT sweetner, comes from a plant and is not a distortion of sugar, if anyone want to try it.

I did not read the whole thread, but we had some stuff about two years (?) ago on the snow at the pump and all kinds of stuff, it was heated and informative -- anyone know where they are? Also the one on BG Leonard, and the whole plagarism stuff. There were events where God spoke to BG Leonard, which are a remarkable twin to VP's crap. Of course BG was first, then the serial copier came along. The decalmi and LAmbono stuff (Spelling) Anyway, Raf brought up a lot of what was discussed.

For the women:

I can not find them, they sold them about 3 weeks ago ONE Saturday. So, now we have to wait another year? I forgot about thin mints

I can almost gag ready the breakfast, strong fish in the morning Do you see coffee on this diet?

Thanks for the info Here is the thing, I do not like Salmon that much, too strong. So I actually used parsley to tone it down -- any other suggestions?

Perricone All I know it is about EFA's and antioxidants. Anyone have it?

I love the Dosidos and the husband does Samoins (sp) They just taste soooo great. Why only once a year? What makes them so dang good?

Happy Belated Birthday!

Cool: Brad Pitt is to handsome what Bill Gates is to computers! Jennifer Anniston is a MAC, cute as can be, and to me the first one with all the style etc. Angelina is then Microsoft Word coming out with their whole windows '95 after Mac had the stuff way ealier. Got it?

Thanks everyone! I am still laughing on this one: "dot raul is just an foot but keep yours coverd at all cost i wish you the best"

Cute kid!

So, the way to deal with Raul is actually to document his behavior and show the bosses. And it is not a thing called Machismo -- that he was taught in his culture, but a real problem with Raul himself -- he is merely a jerk of f I have been to the bosses a few times. One of the times, the one Doctor in a paletable way, pretty much said to mind my own business. So, when it got to the point I could not do my job and the other girl turned in her notice -- I went back to them. You think I should wear a wire?

Smile IT takes almost an hour to get to work. But that would be nice.

This is an "at will" state as well. As is in all stories, each person brings their own baggage. The Doctors are two wonderful Jewish guys who do not like/want to fire anyone. They are just so trusting and have a hard time believing peole can be that horrible. I have been documenting things. There is no human resource person but the Doctors do all the hire/fire stuff. You almost have to kill someone to get fired. At their other hospital a guy was selling drugs in the parking lot every chance he got. The employees told the Doctors and they let it go. The emplyees themselves had to make it VERY difficult for the person to stay. Finally, he quit. There is a blend of circumstances. The other American girl could not deal with this guy and has turned in her notice. There are arseholes everywhere. I know some great Latin people, my neice is marrying a Mexican. But there are some cultural extremes and it seems he fits this -- but then so does LCM fit this (laugh) Machismo in Latin America In the popular press, in reference materials and in academic literature, the term machismo has been used in many different, quite often contradictory, ways. Even if no one can say for sure where the term came from or what it means, it appears to be a central concept in discussions of the roles, status, rights, responsibilities, influences and moral positions of men and women. The most oft-cited definition seems to have come from Evelyn Stevens, who described machismo as a "cult of virility" whose chief characteristics are "exaggerated aggressiveness and intransigence in male-to-male interpersonal relationships and arrogance and sexual aggression in male-to-female relationships." As such, this definition is a non-specific generality. The Dictionary of Mexican Cultural Code Words reports "... machismo meant the repudiation of all "feminine" virtues such as unselfishness, kindness, frankness and truthfulness. It meant being willing to lie without compunction, to be suspicious, envious, jealous, malicious, vindictive, brutal and finally, to be willing to fight and kill without hesitation to protect one's manly image. Machismo meant that a man could not let anything detract from his image of himself as a man's man, regardless of the suffering it brought on himself and the women around him. ... The proof of every man's manliness was his ability to completely dominate his wife and children, to have sexual relations with any woman he wanted, to never let anyone question, deprecate or attempt to thwart his manhood, and never to reveal his true feelings to anyone lest they somehow take advantage of him." Now this becomes a multidimensional concept covering multiple personality traits and behaviors. As such, it becomes difficult to classify someone as 'macho' or not without administering a full battery of reliable and valid personality tests. Absent an objective operational definition, the term becomes an irresponsible way of associating negative character traits with an entire continent of Latin American men. http://www.zonalatina.com/Zldata77.htm There are cultures that allow a husband to kill his wife and the police look the other way. So I believe this is a confluence of Raul being an extremist in the masculinity thing, he is about 4'11", I believe he cannot read English so he deverts to yelling at people to hide his short falls - etc. We have a black woman vet from the Bahamas who is one of the kindest most intelligent people around. She is so womanly, she never swears, she is like being around a princess. She went to the male Docs in charge and said Raul will not listen or take direction from a woman including her. He argues all the time and is NEVER wrong -- She told them today. We will see what happens. Yes, there are problems in all cultures, perhaps the latinos just have a word for some of the problems between men and woman or something http://www.hrw.org/about/projects/womrep/General-187.htm The continued application of the honor defense, which has no basis in law,26 is inherently biased, and is almost exclusively applied to wife-murder. The emphasis on "provocation" by the victim even in pre-meditated wife-murder crimes; the near total failure to prosecute battery and rape in the home; and the prejudicial treatment of rape victims both in law and in fact, represents a pattern of discriminatory treatment by the criminal justice system of female victims of domestic violence. This pattern demonstrates that Brazil does not meet its international obligations to guarantee to its female citizens the equal enjoyment of their civil and political rights and the equal protection of the law. Brazil has taken limited steps toward meeting these obligations. In 1991 Brazil's highest court rejected the defense of honor for the crime of wife-murder in its Lopes decision.27 The 1988 constitution reflects a concern for familial violence and specifically calls for states to establish mechanism to impede domestic violence. And, the creation of the women's police stations also indicates Brazil's recognition both of the wide-scale problem of violence against women and its obligations to take positive steps toward eradicating such abuse. And here in a different country: Many cultures condone or at least tolerate a certain amount of violence against women. In parts of South Asia, Western Asia and Africa, for instance... http://www.afrol.com/Categories/Women/wom0...lence_unfpa.htm I truly think this guy is into this kind of thinking....

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I do not mean to harm or inflame anyone in this thread but I bet it will happen. May I be the first to say that the folks of Latin decent are some of my favorite people at Greasespot so it is in NO WAY directed at them. Just like a thread that might read “Why do the Irish have drinking problems?” Would not be directed AT me but I would instantly feel compelled to reply “Not all Irish drink – I DO NOT.” So, this is not about fighting for the individuals and turning this into – so and so is a great person… This is about the majority, a generalization, which I do not mean to be prejudice, but I am trying to understand what is happening where I live. How to survive what is happening at my place of employment and to ask how can I side step all of this to have harmony? Machismo IS it different than American masculinity? Is it just extreme masculinity? What does an American woman do when she is faced with it at the work place? Briefly, I work with a woman from El Savador who is one of my favorite people. She is marvelous, helpful, funny, kind and a pleasure with which to work. We are team mates. She got her childhood friend, Raul, a job at our place of employment. I welcomed him as I do all new people, and especially as I like her SOOOO much. His first day he was about 10 to 20 minutes late. He parked right behind my car making it impossible for me to leave (our parking lot is archaic). I said, “Good morning, listen do you mind moving your car you have blocked me in?” His response, “You can get out, I am not moving it.” It has been like this since. The Doctor told me to train him on the computer, I said “You will be with me today, I am to train you on our system.” His response, “I know all of that, I don’t need you to show me anything.” (So, when he was left alone he screws everything up because he DID NOT know the program. He has made endless mistakes, then when anyone points out the mistake and the correction he argues about it. He wasn't wrong, the phone rang as he hit a button -- it distracted me so I entered the payment in as $100.00 instead of $10.00, etc, etc.) He immediately began to “brown nose” the Doctors and treat the rest of us, his peers, like we had aids or something. IT has manifested in EVERY thing he touches ALL day long. For instance, a client abandoned a dog with us. ( about two weeks after Raul started, so he was still the new guy) The Doctor told me to find it a home, I asked if anyone were interested. All said “No.” I found a person to take it, then Raul stepped forward and said he wanted it. When the Doctor asked why I did not give the dog to the clients who wanted it I told him Raul caused such a ruckus as he wanted it I bowed out. The Doctor told me to tell him the clients are FIRST not him. I begged the Doctor to tell him himself as Raul seemed to have a problem with women. Doc told me to tell him, I did and Raul BLEW up at me slamming the drawer and complaining of me to all that could hear him. It seemed like he wanted to “save face” IT was horrible. He continued from day one to boss everyone around him and when I told him he was not my boss, he spoke in his language to my dear latin woman friend and the two of them spoke about me in front of me, then neither he nor she would acknowledge me for weeks. The Doctors want to keep him as “he knows Spanish” and the city I am in, is now about 80% Latino. When they finally saw the problem, they are afraid to let him go due to a possible racial lawsuit. It is a mess. He has taken lunches that were an hour to an hour and a half longer than we are alloted. He will call and say I am a few minutes late and return at 4:00 pm. The Docs spoke to him, and he just did it again and again and again. Nobody is going to tell him what to do. The Latino woman and I are now speaking again, and on the side she told me she wishes she never got him the job. But she fears him and lets him push her around. I lived in California for a period and experienced this Machismo stuff out there. When I would not let a Latino male push me around, he began to blow his nose in my food. I was told he will win at all costs, by another Latino male I was giving “rides” to as he had no car. I ran into it in Texas while I waitressed and ran twigs. The Latino waiter would go into my assigned section and take my tables. When I confronted him, he would not BACK down. The backing down to him seemed worse than who was right and who was wrong. I cannot handle this. What is Machismo, how is it different from American males? How does a woman deal with this in the work place as when I am suppose to direct him, he sees it as a threat to his manhood and he makes me suffer? Even George Lopez the comedian recognizes this "machismo" and puts it into his act. He says, "Yeah, I have not spoken to my Dad in 15 years." "Where does he live?" "On the couch." (Neither one will back down) IT is about never backing down, even at the price of what is the right thing to do, as it is seen as wimpy -- or so I have been reading.

He is not over me, just real bossy. His first day he parked boxing me in, I said "Good morning, can you move your car you have boxed me in." He said, "You can get out and I am not moving it." He has been like that since.

I start work at 7:30 am