Not here often.
My response is this. I was speaking more deeply than the examples given so here is another one~
“Daddy, will you play with me?” This was the last thing the man wanted to hear from his son. He had just come home from a very long day at work. He was tired, hungry and all he wanted to do before dinner was sit down, read the newspaper and relax. “Daddy PLEEEEEASE?”
Suddenly the man had an idea. He took a full page from the newspaper that had a picture of the world on it and tore it up into several small pieces. Next, he went to a drawer and got a scotch tape dispenser. He gave the pieces of paper and the tape to his son and said, “Here is a jigsaw puzzle of the world, Buddy. Take it to your room and put it together. As soon as you bring it back to me, I’ll play with you, OK?”
His son excitedly ran off to his room to put the puzzle together and the man sat back in his chair to read his paper, very proud of the fact that he had outsmarted his son and bought himself some time.
To the man’s surprise, his son returned a very short time later with the whole puzzle perfectly put together. “How in the world did you put that puzzle together so quickly?” he asked incredulously. “It would have taken me more than twice as long to do it myself!”
His son answered him, “Well, Daddy, the picture of the world you gave me was too hard for me to figure out. But I noticed that a picture of a man’s hand was on the back of one of the pieces. Then I looked at another one and I saw his foot. It was easier for me to put one man together than the whole world, so I just did that. Then I noticed that as the man came together, so did the world around him!”
Couldn't help being amazed by the symbolism behind that little story.
When you get yourself together the world around you changes.
It is and it is not as simple as saying "no". Pile on life around it. And one winds up in a cult where girls have sex with men to please God and people sell their homes to please a man of God. Simple: Just say no!
How do certain people get conned and others do not? How are some able to walk away and others stay? How do some people sleep with people they do not want to be with and some don't. It is more complicated and layered. It is what compels us to make choices that are not good choices for us. Guilt? An over sense of obligation? Confusion about Christian love? How do some people wind up sending money to a guy from Nigeria? What triggers you? What triggers me to make unwise choices? When I inventoried my own life and removed layers of "in put" I had to look at behaviors and responses I recognized over and over and over again.
It takes a lot of work, honesty, evaluation, forgiveness and willingness to change. It takes realizing when your life is out of control and you feel powerless and turning it over to one who has the power to change us ~ Jesus Christ.
It is involved. It is a process. It takes accountability for our own actions. Not just saying, "I was in a cult" or whatever situation you want to look at. And then digging into why "I" or why "You" were in a cult. What is my accountability?
I want change. And I have to realize the only thing I can change is me. When "I" change then the world around me changes.
I bet they have meetings in th UK if you want to check it out. It is a nice thing to do for yourself. :)