ChasUFarley

We're on!!!!!!

I always say that when I left TWI, I went through my second divorce. I left my first husband in 1996 after we were booted off staff, sent to a strange city, no car, and no believers would take us in (they were told NOT to associate with us or help us.) We weren't M&A - we were on "spiritual probation" - but nonetheless... we were treated like lepers. When my X couldn't meet the goals that leadership set out before him, he was M&A'd. I left him and filed for divorce. Anyhow, my mother took me in - no questions asked. Suddenly, I was in a situation where I wasn't living with other believers - a first for me in my adult life. I realized then that I had forgotten who I was. I used to write poetry and short stories, paint, listen to music - all sorts of stuff - and very creative. But that creativity had been squashed in an effort to be more "godly" or to meet the expectations placed on me by my leadership, fellow believers and husband. (My husband allowed NO hobbies - even just reading a novel was seriously frowned upon.) I left TWI in January 2000. Once again, I had a void in my life where I had spent a lot of time involved in ministry things. I had large spaces of time where I didn't have to account for anything to anyone. It was like a fresh, clean breeze in my face, in some ways, and in other ways I had no idea what to do with myself. Decompressing takes a long time and re-discovering who you are and what makes you "you" is a journey. It takes a while to get there. I feel like a vital part of ME was resurrected when I left TWI and I look forward to developing my art - at the same time, part of me is saddened that I allowed myself to stop these things that used to make me so happy. What was I thinking??

What if we don't want them back?

All this talk about British food and no mention of tongue or steak'n'kidney pie?!

Just think... they're still "IN" and they have to watch Way Productions. They have no choice. Wouldn't that make you sorta cranky, too? I seriously want to unsee that clip now.

This is hitting home a little too well... :unsure: How can you be certain it's related to the cult and not to something else in a person's life? Just wondering...

Thanks for the note - I've been so busy I'd sorta forgotten about this thread. Things went very well - it was a nice reunion and they're hoping to come up here sometime soon. It was beautiful country in Iowa and I can't get over how inexpensive the cost of living is out there! Anyhow, we're going to get together again soon - hopefully this summer!

I showed hubby the clip... "Who's that fartknocker in the middle?" he asked. (I dunno)... But then he started singing that crap afterwards.... Oh, good grief!

This sounds like a couple I knew in TN... They lived on a "need" basis but needs to them were facials, massages, health club memberships, and even a pedigreed dog they couldn't even housebreak. Their children were total snots and the couple often berated me for not babysitting for free. They had their cars detailed each year and even though they were both home all day, neither one could mow the lawn or dust themselves. (And even when someone worked for them, they complained it was NEVER right. They were jerks.) The highlight of this story is that the husband was experiencing pattern baldness... maybe it was too many u-turns under the sheets, but he had no thatch on his roof. He decided to do the "HairClub for Men" thing... and greeted us with his new rug on as we were arriving for a phone-hookup. It was hideous! I remember greeting him - the hug and kiss thing - and I couldn't take my eyes off the top of his head. Because I was raised not to say anything if you can't say anything nice, all I could do was stare. It was awful. Then I realized... That's MY ABS SITTING ON HIS BEAN! They were full-time WC Limb Coordinators - and that was my ABS on his head. I was driving a car that blew black smoke and he was worried - VANITY - about his hair line. I wanted to vomit. I realized what selfish jerks these people were that day.

I wouldn't go on the "Doctrine" forum and complain about non-trinity believers being labeled as "infidels" - what good would it do? I avoid it - there's no point to arguing what people believe. So what? If being called an "infidel" is derogatory then it's not the worst thing I've been called. TWI and the believers are no a "race" of people. They are sect of people with specific beliefs. How can something be "derogatory" (TWI) when that something and the effect it had on our thinking was bad to begin with? The word "TWI" is being used to describe the word "brain"... how is that derogatory? You can't possibly place that on the same level as a religious belief or a race of people with any real logic - there's no parallel to be drawn there. By applying your logic to the rest of life, my being called a "Soccer Mom" would be considered derogatory and my referring to my kids as "Rug Rats" is derogatory. Way Brain wasn't coined as a derogatory term at all. Honest question: Did you post on Waydale? Like back in 2000? It came up then. There were people leaving at a pretty good clip back then, like myself. We thought we'd be dead by midnight because we were outside of the confines of the Household. We thought we'd loose eternal life if we had any debt or if we didn't use the wooden spoon on our kids. It's that stuff that's "Way Brain" - it's that mentality of what you had to do to stay in - what you had to do to survive while in TWI - that is the real definition of Way Brain. It's putting the collective above yourself no matter what! And it's more of a TWI2 thing (LCM's administration, post Fog years, if you will). I get what you're saying - but I don't think you get what we're saying. I don't see anyone calling anyone names or pointing fingers in the posts on this thread. Why do you have a problem with this? You seem to be internalizing this as an attack - it's NOT!

Pawtucket.... Don'tWorryBeHappy.... Please RSVP. I've PM'd you both a couple of times and would love to hear from ya!

Thank you! Maybe I'll see what I can do....

I mean this sincerely... if you're so bugged by this why bother posting here? ("here" = on this thread) I dunno... I just steer clear of stuff that I know I'm going hate... just no time for it, really. By the way... by using the words "derogatory term"... you've just labeled the word "term". I don't get why you have a problem with this, to be honest? "Way Brain" is post-innie speak, that's all. I think you're internalizing this thread waaaay too much!

OnionEater - I didn't know that! (And I'm from Maine!) Very cool!

exie... you're the only person who'd think to rhyme "lunch sack" and "mally pack" in the same line... LOL!

For some reason... this seems appropriate right now, in light of this thread....

I love you Goey! LOL! That's a riot! Better put a copyright on that or they'll claim it! ============================ Next stanza: Give abundant sharing Stay off the internet Remember to goooo places two-by-two Floss your teeth Wipe you @$$ and don't forget to tie your shoes

You can't be serious that you thought I was serious....

Poor Way Productions... they need some help. Maybe we can write a song for them - something that won't make The Soup (formerly known as Talk Soup). It can't be that hard right... I bet we just need to start with a bunch of cliches.... Two by two Each one reach one Speak the truth in love All nine all the time Renew your mind (etc., etc., etc.) and then... the next poster can start a line of lyrics and then the third poster can add the next line, etc. This could be great. And what a great cause! Okay.... next!

This band is my new love in music... if you like MODERN Celtic music (not that Enya-On-Valium-Crapola) then you'll like... The Great Big Sea

There's generally a pattern to their themes - one year it's outreach and the next year it's "inward reach"... (Chas is waiting patiently for Sushi or Socks or some other wise guy to come along to twist that "inward reach" comment....) :blink: LCM is gone... why the kneepads?

I thought that the BOT was only supposed to be in office for like 4 or 5 years at a time, at the most... That was back in 1999 or 2000 that I heard that... So..... Isn't she about 5 years late cleaning out her desk (or having someone do it for her) and getting off the throne?

This will probably only encourage them... Way Math: If someone picks on us = We must be doing something to .... off the adversary Because we're ....ing off the adversary = We must keep on doing it So expect more white boys with very white genes, popping and locking in a suit and tie, looking like they're pimping the Singing Tatas of The Way, who are dressing like your grandmother.

We had a thread about this a while back that you might find useful... I just bumped it up for you...