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I had a quick look at the poster. Not enticing... :( The pic in the top right corner of a man reading under a lampshade surprised me. At first glance (at a thumbnail sketch) I thought it was a seated figure with an enormous paddle behind them, for the beating of small children. ...My bad...

Hi StayQuiet. Welcome to the Cafe. It's going to be hard for you to cut ties with TWI because it may mean cutting ties with your parents, depends on how hard-line they are. Take your time, amass information so that you are confident in your decisions. Try and find some good supportive older friends or contacts who are non-Way related (your friends' parents?). As an adult [Mod Edit] you're old enough to go it alone, but "alone" is a lonely place to be with a culty background. You can also private message people here that you think you can trust, or who can help or advise you. When I got out (long ago) it was the wisdom of some people here (whose names I still don't know) that really helped me.

I have it from several sources that it's Jean-Yves de Lisle. Apparently it was announced over a year ago. People on a Facebook site seem to be aware of that. I worked with Michelle for a while. She was "good value" and fun to be around. I liked JY too though didn't know him as well. He's a trustee... he must know what's gone on and is going on... if he doesn't, he's failing in his duties and responsibilities as a trustee. At the very least, he must know that Rosie and her girlfriend are cohabiting and that runs counter to what TWI teaches - and hasn't confronted the hypocrisy. Which makes him a tacit approver and also a hypocrite. Ah well. The blind leading the blind. And they all fall into a very big ditch.

Heh heh, could be real fun if it were Donald. Ahahahahhahahahahah!!! Can you imagine!!!

Can't see that happening - those kids all ran off as soon as they could. Some of them have wound up here. Good for them!

I have it on good authority that Rosie has announced her retirement! At a recent big meeting, Rosie came out and said that she would be stepping down as of 1/1/17. She said "I'm excited about it too." She has named her replacement but I am not at liberty to divulge his name at present. But "close to home," you might expect. And, as you might also expect - there is no announcement on their website, which doesn't appear to have been updated for many months. Hi, Mr Linder! The news is out!!

Welcome, StayQuiet. I don't know the Perrys but am glad their marriage has somehow survived the predation and interference of TWI.

Brainstormer, check your PMs.

Brainstormer, how's it going with Jessie?

Possibly not as badly, but each one reports to his/her higher leadership and takes instruction as to how to deal with situations. Where Jessie shows enthusiasm, there will be instruction to encourage that. If Jessie starts flagging in enthusiasm, there'll be instruction to find out why. Of course, a lot depends on what the home fellowship leader does actually tell the higher level person. And that depends on how experienced (and therefore autonomous) the home fellowship leader is. Going out "WoW" or "Fellow Laborers" or "Way Disciple" or whatever they call it now does have rules. Some are better than others. Be in bed by midnight every night; pray in the morning before going out; have meetings in the home several times a week. Work only four hours a day; spend the rest of the day out witnessing or in home fellowships. Tithe 10% of your meagre earnings from your 4-hr/day job. Travel to your new location (and back again) at your own expense, pay your rent and deposit and all expenses yourself. Stay in your area for the entire 12 or 6 months, whatever the period is; don't go home for holiday periods or family events (like weddings) - might get permission for a funeral. No smoking, drinking, drugs or friends outside the group. Be under scrutiny the whole time; expect every action to be remarked upon and perhaps reported higher up. There is no choice in who is put in what group; do not expect that all members in your FL group are spiritually aware, mentally stable, or even just plain nice to be with. With the right people, it can be enormous fun and genuinely a time of growth. With the wrong people, it can be horrifyingly bad. As group members are so isolated, there is little opportunity to talk through less desirable experiences except with the group leader (who may actually be the cause of the less desirable experiences). Some people have been known to run away in the middle of the night (the only time they're alone).

I thought I would bump this very old thread because of something that happened recently. I was on holiday, with a friend, in a foreign country. In France. I have a smattering of French, from schooldays; my friend likewise. At a road junction, we had just turned the corner. I spotted the parking garage we needed to enter; my friend was approaching a zebra crossing which had a mum and baby on it. He stopped the car, and reversed very slowly. A Frenchwoman in a car was behind him. A very minor collision occurred. Understandably she was upset and got out of the car, no doubt berating foreigners who came to her country and drove around causing accidents and not speaking the language. Or some such. We did our best to explain but it was going nowhere. The collision had damaged the trim on one of the headlights. Nothing at all serious. As well as the headlight trim, there was actually some other damage on her fender, a small hole clearly caused by our towbar, but the offended driver wasn't even slightly concerned at that. Two young women approached us. The footpath had been apparently empty: but here came these two women. Could they help? One said she was "witness." We asked if they could speak English. What do you know? One had been in London for some years. She was now in this city, "to preach." They calmed the woman, inspected the damage; one of them used her phone to photograph the damaged trim and send to the local dealer, who emailed a price back. Meantime, I'd told the young woman that we too were Christians, and we needed to pray for a good outcome for all. I don't know that she prayed; she did say very confidently that all would be well. The matter was all resolved quite quickly and easily with payment of a very small sum of money. Although the Frenchwoman had complained that there would be labour costs, when my friend offered her extra money for that, she flatly refused to take it and said he was offering too much and she would only accept the cost of the trim as told by her dealership. The two young women were Jehovah's Witnesses. They appeared to be flesh and blood; the more fluent one (who'd done most of the translating) and I embraced. We all shook hands and hugged or kissed upon departure. They continued on their journey across the road; we got in the car and as we moved away I looked to follow these women with my eyes. They were nowhere to be seen. Were they angels? Were they "just people," who just happened to be just the right people, who just happened to arrive at the right time? With the right skills? Who knew just what to do? With the right calming manner to soothe the offended Frenchwoman? I don't know. A little later we found ourselves in a quiet chapel, and my friend and I quietly and privately thanked God for these people and for their and His help in what could have been a really difficult situation. And I found myself very much thinking of what it is to have a Mediator, who understands our situations and human frailty, "speaks our language," and who "goes in to bat" for us. I thought some very immense thoughts about the Mediator, the Lord Jesus Christ, who gave his life and pleads for us. Anything that makes us think more highly of God, and the Lord Jesus, has got to be godly. I'm thankful!!

Perhaps it would be time to split off the last dozen or so posts they really don't seem relevant to the question that Brainstormer posed. And Bapsy might benefit from his/her own questions being answered on a separate thread.

Welcome, Bapsy. Glad you got out. It's good to give; but tithing is one of many things TWI got wrong. 2002 - you have "stickability" if you've been with them since then. And you have common sense, to have escaped now and be thinking things through for yourself. Well done. Be cautious, though, in utilising ex-Way splinter group resources; acknowledge their provenance. Some are more worthy than others; some are just a re-hash of old material. Let's hope Jessie makes it through too - but in less time.

From their website today: Board of Directors Rev. Rosalie F. Rivenbark, Chairman Rev. Jean-Yves De Lisle Rev. John Rupp Who's missing? I'm not up enough to know. J0hn Reyn0lds used to run IO (80s and 90s, at least) and wasn't he also on the BoD more latterly? Sometimes I find it a bit odd that D0nna isn't on the BoD but perhaps she's learned from being married to LCM. Or maybe she gets enough of the jollies and is content to have none of the responsibility. In passing, I note that they now have an email address to Contact Us, though it's not as easy and definitely not as anonymous as most e-contact addresses. You have to give your name and address in full before getting to the invitation to present your query. Death by boredom. maybe... (yawn)

Hi Brainstormer, and welcome to the Cafe. Plenty of people here with very diverse views. All linked by the one connection: TWI. It would be fair to say that most, if not all, of us got involved by hearing Bible teaching of an apparent standard that we hadn't heard before. And in its initial levels, the Bible taught is quite good. That's because it was pinched from quite a number of people who had studied it, and were able to teach it. The plagiarized version presented to TWI beginners was never and still is not as good. But it may depend, from your child's point of view, on how well taught she was by other churches. Also, at initial levels, there is a great feeling of cameraderie and fellowship with other believers. Who, mostly, are pretty great people. The problem arises as one gets sucked deeper and deeper in. Way-based activities tend to displace time for non-Way related activities and spending time with friends and family. It's slow, and subtle, and deadly. Gentle nudges in a direction different from where she might otherwise have been going. It's likely that Jessie will be being taught overtly or by example, that family and old friends are dangerous to her walk with God: that they will either pleasure her or pressure her from "the truth;" therefore, the more you challenge her beliefs, the more it will be seen that you are working to distract her in her walk with God, and you may even be working against God. I am sorry to say that that is what many of us wanted too. The desire to know God and give glory to him is in fact the vulnerability! Some of us had previous good jobs and high-level professional qualifications. I would suggest that you don't challenge doctrinal issues (which you will also find between most denominations) but the outcome of those issues and the practicalities of Way life. Like: cutting oneself off from friends and family; not being around for family events; dropping her Christian friends (of course, they may drop her!); and, of course, not fulfilling her God-given skills and abilities by pursuing her career ambitions. Remind her (very gently) that Jesus hung around with all sort of disreputable people (the religious high-ups of the day condemned him for hanging out with thieves and prostitutes) - Jesus clearly "mucked in" with them - wasn't preachy and strident but drew people to him by his genuine kindness and compassion. Jesus was only strident with hypocrites of the religious classes - not with ordinary people or his own followers. How does Way leadership treat her? Treat other people? How are people who don't spend a lot of time with the group treated? Or are they shunned? The comments from people here are from a long period of time, decades; they are from people who may never have met each other to "compare notes" but who have the same sort of stories to tell; some of us were "in" for a long period. As others have said - be kind to her, keep the door open. You might want to show some interest in what she is being taught, so that you can either point out that that is what she has already learned (from the local community of Christians), or how it differs from what is taught elsewhere in the Bible. She will probably be very hot on what it says in the epistles and maybe Acts; not so hot on and dismissive of the gospel and OT, so gently draw any points of difference from the epistles, if you can.

Lanikaigal, welcome. I so relate to your "being witnessed to" experience. I get JW doorknockers from time to time, nothing new - but one day I was out walking and observed some Mormons doing their doorknocking thing. And it struck me - that "was me," at one time, beating the feet up and down streets, hopefully knocking on doors but being rejected... I wonder how many people have ever truly been reached by any bunch of people "door knocking." Stick around, I'm sure you have a lot to contribute.

T-Bone - that yacht in your imagination, of course! Magical thinking? Here's Magic Yacht (yes, it really is called that!).

You might like Derren Brown's debunking videos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X56Kmbgn6dE. It's quite long,but even just the first ten minutes is interesting. And, a bit off topic, here's something about https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iuP5uOI7Xwc. There's a bit around minute 44 that might have a familiar ring to it, but the whole article is worth watching.

Nobody can read minds. But some people are more adept than others at reading body language. Or, perhaps, recognising what certain body language movements actually signal, about that person's thoughts. Most of us have some ability, even if we don't recognise it much. But some people make a study of it. Con-men, for example. Salesmen. Those who want something from you. Manipulators. Even then, other people don't know your precise thoughts, only those mirrored by certain actions or behaviours at that particular time.. They don't know unless they ask careful questions that you are concerned about your cat, or your auntie Susie, or that the bank sent you a threatening letter just yesterday. They don't know the name of your boss, your friends or your yacht without asking those questions by some means.

VPW always used to say that the devil couldn't read thoughts. Extend that a bit ... the devil's minions can't read thoughgs (otherwise, they'd be cleverer than the devil). The devil's minions that seemingly spoke to VPW (pretending (?) to be God) couldn't read his mind and they certainly couldn't read yours and tell VPW or any of his human minions what you were thinking. Oh course, none of that stops people showing off, or pretending to get revelation, or trying to showboat someone/something or gaslight someone/something or otherwise generally put lesser mortals down a peg or two.

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Rocky, yes! We're on the same side, perhaps the written bit didn't come through as well as it might have done if spoken. DL does well to question - everything! Thank God for the ability to use our critical thinking skills - again. Like this better? If you one were to believe that cancer is caused by devil spirits, then also remember: That Jesus Christ is bigger than, and casts out, devil spirits. Carry on thinking :)

This is Braker's website: http://www.povertyvswealth.com/

Interesting and different... finding my way around. Easier for all of us than for you folks upgrading... Thanks for all your hard work.

I'm just wondering what people think about hypnotherapy, whether it works (lastingly) - what it is, really. I was listening to someone on the radio the other day who'd had a fear of water and after one session had found herself able to get into a swimming bath and swim (somehow) for about 25m. Being hypnotised has never had any attraction for me but I can see it might be beneficial to people who have serious phobias about "unimportant" things and some have reported great success in being able to give up smoking after having smoked for many years or decades. If a person is terrified of even the friendliest dog, or cat, or of spiders, or open spaces, not to mention more obscure phobias ... these could significantly impact on one's quality of life. The Way taught that hypnotism was opening oneself up to devil spirit possession; if you weren't in control of your mind/thinking, who or what was? I think that can be an argument the other way too - if you have an unreasonable fear (phobia) that hinders your everyday life, who or what is in control there? Any thoughts, anyone? I seriously DON'T want this to become a Way-beating topic, which is why I've not opened it in About The Way or in Doctrinal. Please try to stay away from those aspects of this topic as much as possible.