OK, so help me understand this. If I tell you VP was a serial rapist who drugged and then violated many of his female congregants your response would be that I should not condemn myself? That's certainly an unusual perspective. 
Oh, and that thing about the past not determining the future: Why do you suppose, then, employers run background checks on prospective employees? 
And, then there's this: "All thru twi I never let people mandate how I processed anything." 
 Are you familiar with the expression "Can't see the forest for the trees."?