In 1997, a twig coordinator in our state had heart complications and abruptly died. Her brother in Florida
was on twi's "mark and avoid" list and Bob Moneyhands phoned and informed me of this information. In his words,
this brother would NOT be allowed to attend his sister's funeral.
As the limb coordinator, I was facing hurt and grieving over the loss of this precious woman......and now, this
twi-dictate was staring me in the face. Bob Moneyhands, a top-tier clergyman in twi's hierarchy was telling
me to uphold the mark/avoid policy in this situation. Really? Is that policy etched in stone?
About an hour later........this brother, Chris, calls and forthrightly explains his situation. He admits to a
few shortcomings and then, asks me if he could possibly attend his sister's funeral. My heart welled with compassion
and I firmly said, "Yes, you are welcome to attend and call me when you arrive." He cried and thanked me as he hung
up the phone.
Preparations for the funeral were underway. My responsibility.
Several days later, and after the funeral.......he thanked me again. Then, I invited him to come home with us for dinner
and a night of warm friendship and love. Others were invited as well. I felt that it was my responsibility before God to
comfort his grieving soul with all that was within me. With food, snacks, a movie, and prayerful concern....my wife and I did everything
we could to minister to this deep loss we all felt. At the end of the evening, Chris cried and thanked us for caring
so deeply.
He left a changed man.
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