I haven't been in your exact same shoes, BikerBabe, but close enough to know what you're saying. My wife's on disability for bipolar mood disorder, and we often use the services of our local food pantry. She also has a large family, some other members of which also get food. We are able to swap a lot of things in the family.
I think the best churches are small groups where the members watch out for each other. That's like my wife's family, and it's what twigs SHOULD have been.
Love,
Steve