This is why it's so hard to be friends with lots of ex-ways. For some reason, many still continue the "spiritual hierarchy" in their minds in every relationship. Too bad for them. Friends are important to have.
This is why it's so hard to be friends with lots of ex-ways. For some reason, many still continue the "spiritual hierarchy" in their minds in every relationship. Too bad for them. Friends are important to have.
I agree with your point WB! and Thank You Todd I always enjoy your input and the pod casts you have shared your heart, knowledge and wisdom on! It would change a lot if we used these touchstones; perhaps then we could see each other's heart more truly!
+ Speak your truths in ways that respect other people's truths. Our views of reality may differ, but speaking one's truth in a circle of trust does not mean interpreting, correcting, or debating what others say. Speak from your center to the center of the circle, using "I" statements, trusting other people to do their own sifting and winoowing.
+ When the going gets rough, turn to wonder. If you feel judgemental, or defensive, ask yourself, "I wonder what brought her to this belief?" "I wonder what he's feeling right now?" "I wonder what my reaction teaches me about myself?" Set aside judgement to listen to others--and to yourself--more deeply.
not sure how such things might be applied in the hypertextual conversations of the GSC
but i am sure yall are creative enough to find ways to make use of them
Todd I really did enjoy the podcast yesterday. My silence should be taken as contemplation of the words and heart being spoken and not of disinterest. These two specific points hit home for me particularly.
In the past I have been known to turn to the left side of my brain to analyze (not feel) what another person is saying and that had left me in a pickle at times. More recently I have had an instance where another person, a friend of mine flat refused to see my side or my truth. But considering how in the past that I have failed to see someone elses truth I can hardly blame my friend. It is hard to see another persons truth when you have already decided that yours is the only truth.
On the second point I have in the past immediately jumped to conclusions when I read a post or heard a statement spoken. I have for many years tried to consider the other persons words and where they are speaking from before I answer. This often leaves long gaps of silence which few people respect. But I would rather be seen as weak or undecided than judgemental.
Everyone has the right to be heard and listened to, I may not agree with what you say, but I will listen to you. I am still assimilating the remainder of your list, but all in all I think that I will find it most helpful to me in many areas of my life.
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Grand information, thanks! Looking forward to listening to today's podcast. Had guests arrive right after I tuned in, so missed 99% of it.
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thank you, t.
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Great information, sirguessalot!
This is why it's so hard to be friends with lots of ex-ways. For some reason, many still continue the "spiritual hierarchy" in their minds in every relationship. Too bad for them. Friends are important to have.
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I agree with your point WB! and Thank You Todd I always enjoy your input and the pod casts you have shared your heart, knowledge and wisdom on! It would change a lot if we used these touchstones; perhaps then we could see each other's heart more truly!
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Todd I really did enjoy the podcast yesterday. My silence should be taken as contemplation of the words and heart being spoken and not of disinterest. These two specific points hit home for me particularly.
In the past I have been known to turn to the left side of my brain to analyze (not feel) what another person is saying and that had left me in a pickle at times. More recently I have had an instance where another person, a friend of mine flat refused to see my side or my truth. But considering how in the past that I have failed to see someone elses truth I can hardly blame my friend. It is hard to see another persons truth when you have already decided that yours is the only truth.
On the second point I have in the past immediately jumped to conclusions when I read a post or heard a statement spoken. I have for many years tried to consider the other persons words and where they are speaking from before I answer. This often leaves long gaps of silence which few people respect. But I would rather be seen as weak or undecided than judgemental.
Everyone has the right to be heard and listened to, I may not agree with what you say, but I will listen to you. I am still assimilating the remainder of your list, but all in all I think that I will find it most helpful to me in many areas of my life.
Great stuff Todd!
Thank you as well Paw!
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thanks for the feedback...you guys are kind
ok, sticking my neck out a bit...
i've been wondering....would anyone be interested in participating in a podcast series that i am thinking about starting this winter?
a few details...
- ive been learning a lot in recent years...and i need to 'release' or im surely going to melt
- it would be independent of the regular GS radio and perhaps parallel to an ex-way blog group
- i am trying to get away from writing until i can afford to sit and write well...so i want to practice speaking
- i would like to experiment with a variety of dialogue styles and formats i have been studying and practicing
- i would post a list of topics i am becoming fluent in for people to ask from (sexuality, the arts, religions, dying, etc...)
- i find that i respond well to open, honest Q&A ...in fact, i have come to prefer it over trying to compose 'outta the blue'
- i would like to keep the invitations somewhat cozy and somewhat limited to GS members
- this is a project with a limited scope...it is meant to come to a natural end
- i cannot do this alone...i will need a bit of help for some of the elements
- i am not making any claims of supernatural elitism or anything like that
- it does not always need to be recorded for the public
- i would like to be as transparent as possible
- and all the other details i surely missed...
feel free to inquire
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doojable
PM me and let's see if I have anything to offer.
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Eyesopen
I would be interested in participating in this.
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Lizzy
Thank you!
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Suda
Sounds interesting. Keep me posted, please, if you think I'd be of benefit to your endeavor.
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RainbowsGirl
thank You Todd,
I would like to participate as well if there is room and I would fit in. Please, let me know.
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